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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Me and a boy went out 2 years ago, and became very serious, but called it off because my mum wasn't well and I needed time away from everything. He totally understood, but we lost contact soon afterwards, because I was so down and depressed. Recently, we got back in contact, and when we met up, I ended up kissing him.We're now back together, but the first words he said to me after he asked me out was "But when I go to uni this year... Well, we both know what's best, right?". I love him so much, but is there really any point dating someone who has vertually guarenteed we will break up in 3 months time? Things are really serious, with talk about marriage when he finishes his course in 4 years time, but will he really hold on for me, or should I have my fun, then forget him and move on when he leaves? Please help!
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reader, DV1  +, writes (27 May 2007):
 If he really loves you, he'll keep dating you through college. Be willing to see him whenever he's got free time.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (27 May 2007):
 My experience from watching my own friends is that most of them can't handle the pressure of the long distance/open relationship while the other one is in uni. I think you'd be pretty much guaranteed to be hurt if you pinned all your hopes on him waiting for you. As for the three months it's your choice what to do but when he goes to uni live your own life, date other people... if you're meant to be you will get back together when he finishes uni. The problem with being young is that you're changing so much all the time. The guy I thought I'd marry when I was 17 is a total no go area for me now. Maybe you'll prove all the critics wrong but see him going to uni as an opportunity to have your fun. If you're meant to be you will find your way back to each other.
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