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writes: Alright. So the question isn't does he like me, I already know that one of my teachers this year does. I have no interest in him for the record. He's a middle aged man, around 45-50 would be my guess and he's married with I thhink 3 daughters. He's my favorite teacher ever and I don't know what to do about this. He hasn't done anything inappropriate or anything, and he's a good guy so I don't expect he ever will, it's just sometimes he creeps me out a little bit in class by making quite a few situations pretty awkward. We have online grading systems and he always makes my grade higher in the computer than the actual hard copy of the assignment. I don't know if he knows I know that but either way, he does it. I've asked one of my friends if he does this to her grades because we're clearly his two favorites in the class, you could ask anyone, and he doesn't. Only me. I know it's bad, but he does make me feel better about myself knowing that he likes me. I can't help it. It's just nice to be liked I suppose.So I just don't know what to do. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much guys! :) I appreciate your time and advice.
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reader, Kassi (Nova)  +, writes (11 February 2010):
 It depends on how you see his "liking" you. It could simply be that he has respect for you on an intellectual level. If you are smart, and mature, and responsible, and if you are punctual and not prone to missing class it may actually merit the higher grades.
It's easy to jump the conclusion that he might "like" you. In fact, in high school, I too had a suspicion as such with a teacher of mine. However, years since I realized that to be liked is a broad subject and happens for so many reasons.
A lot of girls also lean towards "liking to be liked" and become interested romantically in people simply because those people like them, even if no connection would otherwise have formed. At the end of the day, he is your teacher. Unless he has been physically inappropriate or said anything appropriate to you, don't jump to conclusions.
Even the accusation could ruin his life. If he ever does touch you or say anything to you that is inappropriate, then there is reason to tell someone.
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reader, mystiquek  + ♥, writes (11 February 2010):
 You're at a very vulnerable age, and of course its flattering to have an older man show you attention. But if this teacher is giving you higher grades than you really earn, its wrong. And if he is showing you noticeable attention, this is not appropriate either. He is old enough to know better. I realize that you like him and don't wish to get him in trouble, but he's playing a rather stupid and dangerous game if his behavior continues. You can always speak to your parents or a counselor if his action make you uncomfortable, but realize that be doing so, you could get him into trouble. If you don't wish to go that route then perhaps the next best thing is to try and back away out the situation. Do not show any extra interest in him, just be student/teacher, NOTHING more.
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reader, hameleon89  +, writes (11 February 2010):
 i'm in university, and we have the same teacher, he likes girls and always can do for them everything:like give them tips or advices for searching information, or giving advices what can should learn for exams etc....but for guys he doesn't do anything, even more he ignores us totaly.So i htink he just likes to flirt,and nothing more.And he is a ncie guy and finds you a nice person.
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reader, Shiro'-'Nosuke +, writes (11 February 2010):
 maby confront him about it. this may not be the best decision tho. just ride it out the year will be over soon and he'll just be a past teacher
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