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writes:ok here goes, i used to go wi this guy, we split up october, but since them i hav stayed the nyt with him far too many tyms to count, he also gets reli jealous if i am with any other guy or if he hears a rumour about me, he then tells me her reli likes me an wants me bak, an i reli do like him aswell, bt then he turns round an says he dusnt like me an just felt bad for me, i dnt understand wot he wants frm me, he always tells my mates he wants nufin to do wi me then pulls me aside wen i see him an tells me he aint stopped wantin me, wots this guy all about wot should i do?
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reader, char xx +, writes (26 August 2008):
char xx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks a lot for all your answers much appreciated, took your advice and asked him what he wanted from me, he said he liked me and we both agreed we needed to spend some time together and see how we are feeling, but now heres the new problem haha emmm we were sitting in his car and we ended up kissing, thats all that happened but now hes gone all silent on me, i dont know whats going on!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (17 July 2008):
 It sounds to me like he's really not very mature yet. It takes a while to grow up and figure out what you really want out of life and relationships.
Right now, he still gets to see you, sleep with you (I'm assuming that based on the comment you made about spending the night with him), and try to control you. But he's not willing to be a proper boyfriend to you.
Hm. I think it might not be a bad idea to stop spending the night with him and tell him that you are moving on with your life. If he's willing to grow up and behave like a proper gentleman to you, maybe you will consider going out with him again. But until he is a bit more mature, then I think it's a good idea to stop being treated like a yo-yo. Either he's with you or he's not. Either he can tell the world that you are his girlfriend or he can't. It's that simple.
Take care, and don't let yourself be treated like some sort of secret booty call, if that is not what you really want.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (17 July 2008):
 this guy is either very confused about wat he wants or is cruel and is just playing games with you. either way i wouldnt stick around to find out.
but wat you have also done is blurred the boundaries of your relationship - you say you broke up but you still spend the night with him. thats playing a risky game as neither of you know where to stand and it also makes it more difficult to face up to the inevitable next relationship because there is no real end point. you broke up but you are still being intimate and thats confusing.
i think that you need to stop spending the night with him, tell him to stop pulling you aside and let you live your life.
let him make up his mind - either he wants to be with you or he doesnt - he cant have it both ways. if you tell him that you want him to make up his mind and stop playing with you then he should respect that and be fair to you
hope this helps email if you want more help hun good luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2008): He's messing with your head.He still likes you.No guy as a
friend to a girl would control her like that.He propably hates to see you with other guys because he wants you back
and he's trying to deny that he still likes you since he
says he doesn't every time he says he does.But tell him that no one can control you and you can hang out with who
ever you want.Why should it matter to him anyway.And ask hin what he really wants,since you're tired of his games.
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