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writes: dear cupid,so, about three weeks ago, my boyfriend and i broke up. there aren't really any hard feelings, and we didn't fight about it--life just kind of got in the way of us being together right now, and we just calmly discussed the situation.he still has some of my stuff--nothing much, really; just some CDs and the bandanna that i wore on our first date--and i told him that i would like it back when he got a chance to give it to me. his response was, "your stuff? you don't expect to see me again?" we were texting, so obviously, i couldn't see his facial expression or anything like that.it might seem like a weird thing to wonder about, but what can i conclude from his response? i mean, could the fact that he's not really willing to give me back my stuff mean that he still has feelings for me and wants us to get back together in the future?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 May 2011):
 Erm from what he wrote back it is really hard to understand what his meaning was from behind the text but no I wouldn't take it that he wants to get back with you. In fact it is quite a childish response from someone when it was a mutual break up and you are both ok with the break up. He might be sulking at the moment or this might be his way of telling you that he doesnt want to remain friends. I guess the only way you are going to find out is to ask him what the big deal is of meeting up to get your stuff back. Good Luck.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (4 May 2011):
 I don't get that he's not willing to give it back from that response. Not at all. He's more concerned about the possibility of never getting to see you again.
Yes, he still has feelings for you. They don't go away overnight. Part of him may want to still be with you. In a break up like you describe, it's very common. That's because he didn't want to break up with you because of some problem in the relationship. Outside circumstances came between you. Having been in a similar situation, I found that sort of break up the hardest to move on from.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 May 2011):
 nope it means he's a prick. (can I say that?) if not he's a JERK....
it's some CDs and a bandanana. you can replace them.
let them go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2011): Best case - he sees this as an opportunity to see you again
Second best case - he is sentimental, wants to keep them as souvenirs
Second worst case - he wants to avoid seeing you again
Worst case - he's thrown your stuff away already
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