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writes:My man cheated, I caught him out by looking at his phone while he was in the shower. He said why can't he love two women? we are not married so he sees nothing wrong with it. Refuses to give up other woman, wants to do what he wants to do, but doesn't want to give me up either. Wants to know what is wrong with loving two women equally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): May I ask if your partner was raised in a situation where his father had 2 women? I have a friend that is going through the same situation but she is the second of the 2 women. He has told her this is the way he was raised and truly believes it is alright. I think the issue needs to be up to you and no one can answer that question but yourself. I wish you the very best in your decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): Run like hell, i would. He wants two women, what if you want two men?? I don't think that would go down so well. Let him have as many women as he wants - leave him to have the life he want. You will meet someone who you so deserve and treats you better. He isn't worth your time and effort.
Take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): It is really interesting that there isn't even a question that you pose. You only just outline the situation, and tell us all the things that he wants. That's fine. He is free to want what he wants. The real question for me is, what do you want?To me the conversation would sound something like this:Your man: "I want to be free to love 2 women at once, so I am not going to give either of you up."Your response: "That's fine, I respect your feelings and decisions on the matter, but I don't want that. I want something different, so I guess you are not a good partner for me. I wish you all the best in the future. Ok, take care then, bye bye now."End of story. Get a partner who wants the same things you do in this department.
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (13 March 2007):
Its like realm said, he needs to choose. He obviously wants an open relationship. And if thats what he wanted he should have made it clear from the start. I cant see him commiting to your, hes being really insensitive and immature. I would just end it, and if you really want to be with him, give him a chance to finish it with her and prove faithfulness. It really doesnt seem like he will be able to though. I really think someone else could treat you so much better, because i really dont think you deserve what this guy is doing to you.
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reader, kelpel +, writes (13 March 2007):
why are you still with this man?? why are you putting up with someone who's putting you through this and obviously has no respect for you as a person. sounds to me like he doesnt know what he wants! bad enough that you caught him cheating - but then for him to say he thinks it ok!! what is that all about??! respect and trust are what relationships are built from - i dont understand men like yours. personally, i'd get out now - make the break tell him he's welcome to her, and bag yourself a decent, honest, REAL man xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2007): Leave.
You need to tell him in the future that he needs to be straight forward with this vital piece of information so a woman has the respect and consideration to make a choice to want to be with a man who cannot stay faithful or monogamous.
Then say goodbye and find a man better suited to your value system.
Staying with this man will only cause you pain and sorrow and leave you believing you are not good enough-YOU ARE.
Best Wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2007): Why are you putting up with this? Get out of this relationship and move on. After all you don't want to share your boyfriend with another woman do you?
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