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writes:I've been with my BF 5 years now, we are in a LDR. We have a very good relationship, we understand each other very well and we love each other. We dated for long time, we wanted to know each other good enough first. During this time we spoke about everything also about marriage. I told him that I want to marry and he agreed, he was even very emotional about the idea and he said things like "deep inside I know it's the right thing" and he said too "it feels like he's been waiting long years for marriage and now he finally found me" He is divorced and he never spoke about his ex. I never ask him and I respect him for not talking about his ex. I was really flattered when he said "he never had a successful relationship with a woman until he met me". We started spending weekends together and things were great. We have lots in common, but we don't talk about getting together anymore. He is very busy with his career and he's been deployed overseas a couple of years now. He emails less, he stopped calling me and doesn't make any effort to see me on his leaves like before. Recently he emailed me out of the blue and said if I love him I should stick around, he loves me and sticking around but doesn't want to marry, he's happy with things the way they are but If I want to marry, if the paper and the ceremony are important to me then I need to find a man focusing on marriage. He doesn't know what he did to me with this sentence. I didn't respond back yet, I don't know what to do !! Why would he tell me that after 5 years? why is he pushing me away? This hurts too much. How could he do this to me. Please help. All ideas and advices are much appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): thanks birdynumnums, thanks peoriman for your replies. LDR means Long distance relationship, Sorry :-)
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (5 January 2008):
 Are you quite sure that he is divorced? Most people do talk about their ex's. Could it be that he doesn't want to get married again because he is still married? I just sounds curious, and in a LDR it could be possible to tell a few more little white lies and even a few big fat whoppers...
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