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writes:My ex recently broke up with me, I think to explore other people, we would have been dating two years. Even though he's moved on after two weeks, I cant seem to. I still love him with all my heart, and want to go back out with him, even if there is someone better out there, I really just want him. But a friend asked him if he would give me the chance and he said no. He doesn't want me back. I cant seem to move on from this. What can I do?
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reader, Princess xx  +, writes (3 August 2007):
hunni, dnt worry ur not alone, everyone has bin in this situation at sum time or another. its part of life im afraid, and everyone has experienced this. firstly u need to try to come to terms with what has happened and accept that ur ex is not coming back. i know this will be very hard to do (i kno, ive been ther) but the sooner u accept things the quicker u are on the road to healing. Just remember that he is ur EX for a reason and things obviously wernt meant 2 be or u wud still be together.
i would also strongly recommend cutting off all contact with him because if u try to remain friends with him you will probably just make things worse for yourself. usually wen ex's try to remain friends it doesnt work, not at first anyway. so dont email, phone or text him! try to avoid any situations where u night bump in2 him at first, it will help you to move on and 4get about him.
Instead fill your time with things you love doing, spend time with your friends, go out and socialise, and take up new hobbies. Rememember your ex was not the only thing that provided happiness in your life. Now you are single, you can find the happiness in other areas of your life and do all the things you have always wanted to do, like going on a girly holiday for example. See your new single life as a great opportunity, not a punishment.
Most importantly, rely on your friends. If you need a to have a cry or you feel upset, talk to them, thats what friends are there for. You will soon have less and less to say about him. Then you know you are getting better.
I know it doesnt feel like it now, but u will get ther and get over him. Believe me! You will find someone who trully loves and appreciates you. I hope this helped. Keep your chin up and keep smiling xx
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (30 July 2007):
 I have to agree. At least you know for sure that he doesn't want to be with you, this should hopefully help you accept the situation and IN TIME, move on.I'm in a similar situation, and believe me, your moods will probably rocket up and down; One minute you will feel like you are accepting things, the next, you'll just want to lie in bed and cry into your pillow.It is hard, and can tell you no different. But some day, you will find somebody new. Time is all that is needed, and in the mean time, try and occupy yours with things you enjoy. Enjoy your life. That is the best cure for this pain.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (30 July 2007):
 Dearest, all you can do is bite your tongue and stay where you are. Believe me, it's for the best. This will seem like BS to you, but, the sun will shine again for you one day. You'll meet someone else and he will love you back.
Don't bang your head against the wall. If you stop fighting the feeling, it will eventually stop hurting.
My heart is with you.
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