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female
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51-59,
*ildaw
writes:I have been with my partner for almost four years. Last August i discovered that he had been texting and calling another woman day and night. He had even been round her house (to fix her tap...hmm..) whilst i was on holiday with my children and sister. He denied all of this to me for days before he broke down and admitted that he had kissed her a couple of times but nothing else had happened. After much heartache and deliberation i decided to take him back, he swore that he would never do this to me again. Sadly the trust is taking longer than i thought to rebuild :-( He has many female friends whom he texts and calls quite regularly, and has done so throughout our entire relationship, sometimes till the early hours...this mostly occurs when we are not together but has happened when we have been together, yet NOT to my knowledge. He persistantly claims that they are all just friends and seems unable to understand why i get so upset about it (mainly because it is all done behind my back!) We have now reached loggerheads. He doesn't want to stop the contact with his friends, i don't want to be a control freak and tell him he must, yet am finding it increasingly more difficult to cope with due to the previous event.. Any advice would be gratefully appreciated..
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reader, Full moon temptress1 +, writes (14 January 2010):
Hmm tricky one.Have you ever met any of these women?If not maybe you should suggest just that.If they are just friends,then he shouldn't have a problem you meeting them.If he starts looking uncomfortable maybe thats a sign he is not being totally truthful.
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reader, Full moon temptress1 +, writes (14 January 2010):
Hmm tricky one.Have you ever met any of these women?If not maybe you should suggest just that.If they are just friends,then he shouldn't have a problem you meeting them.If he starts looking uncomfortable maybe thats a sign he is not being totally truthful.
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reader, kaytie-babey +, writes (14 January 2010):
 I would either break up with him - for the best of your mental health and quite basically your feelings.Or I would lay it on the line that he either stops calling/texting other people day and night, or tells you who and when they're calling - and not leave the room when he's on the phone and stops being so secretive about his phone calls, he says no and he isn't worth it - get out and move on with your life.I hope this advice help's you out!
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