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writes:dating a guy for 10 months and i have a fear of cheating from men as it was done in the past. i try not to hold my guy accountable for my history. he to has a history of cheating on his ex he says he has changed and want me only and WANTS to be faithful..i am good with that. but his ex is his best friend and he is friends with someone that i know wants him he says he has no interest but she i comfortable with sending messages at odd hours and so is the ex. i express to him my dislike but resorts to "black women always have drama you have a good faithful man and want to have a fight". we were so good before i was more involved in his life and i wanna let it go and trust him but my history screams differently causing distrust. i hate the energy it take from me. i told him of people that knowing i have a man have said and my actions to no longer speak to them due to disrespect of me and my relationship i dont feel he can do the same. i often wish we had a third party to hear our concerns to maybe shed light on the both of us. but right now on my day off my heart is heavy and my mind clouded cause of all this. any ideas as to how to handle this??
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reader, midgen  +, writes (19 February 2009):
my boyfriend has always had women that cheated on him and i have always had cheating men. we both detest it but we still think that we will do it to each other. you will never be able to just get it out of your head unless he proves his love for you, and even then you might still not fully trust him. i have always said once a cheater always a cheater and i havn't been proven wrong yet. if he loves you then he will take your concerns for these other woman with consideration. if he cant do that then he's not worth it. find someone who has always been faithful.
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