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writes:I recently started dating a guy that I've known for about 5 months. We started dating Dec 23rd. Well, I'm starting to question this relationship. When I text him to say things like: "I like you, I miss you, I miss being with you", things like that, he doesn't reply or asks something else. I have a feeling he doesn't like me as much as I do. I'm going to ask him eventually but what are you're thoughts? Why is this happening?
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (15 January 2011):
 Eek lady...
It's a little too soon to be professing love at this stage. Even if you feel it, I think it's a little bit too early. You are still learning about this guy and right now everything looks rosy, but to be honest, you barely know one another. Plus the guy is still learning about you and he isn't quite willing to go to that level today (perhaps soon, but not today). That doesn't mean your relationship is doomed -- it just means he wants to learn more about you before going to that level.
In closing, I also have to chastise you for texting. I know it's the thing to do these days, but it's about as personal as a forwarded email joke from your best friend. It's a great tool for quick messages ("can you pick up a carton of milk?" or "Train was late, 10 minutes late") but expressing love? While not use Morse Code? Leave the texting for the 15-year-olds... and do the emotionally stuff like you mean it: in person.
Good luck.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (14 January 2011):
 hi
its too early days to be saying things like this. he knows it but you don't. don't condemn him for being more sensible and wanting to take things slower than you do. or would you rather he says it back, even if he doesn't mean it? you have been an acquaintance/friend for 5 months and have been dating about three weeks, too early in the relationship to started questioning anything. lighten up :) yes its nice and exciting when we first meet someone, but please for your own sake don't wear your heart on your sleeve like this! it makes you seem clingy and too full on and guys don't like it (he is not responding well to it is he?) you can still show your feelings and let him know you are interested in other ways. calm down or you may end up ruining things with him
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2011): Maybe you are pushing things a bit fast for him. It's only been a few weeks after all. I would not press him to define his feelings. It is very early days. Relax and take it easy. Enjoy his company and don't expect declarations of love just yet. Give it a few months.
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