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writes:I feel like I need to get out but my love is preventing me from doing so. I've been with him for I think about mmm 2 years and a couple of months. During that time he has been in jail for 8 months and no it wasn't all his fault. But that's another story. I am very much in love with him we have had our ups and downs but lately the last 3 months have not been good. Last month April me and him got into a big argument and funny thing is I have no clue what it was about, he was drinking a little more than the usaul things got out of hand... I wanted to go home he wouldn't let me I kept pushing him away until finally yes I did threathen him I told him if he didn't let me go home I would hit him in the gnads he continued to push me around and shove me around very aggresively finally I snapped and kicked him I got as far away out the front door but still in the apartment complex next thing you know he is after me he grabs me by my hair like if I were some sort of dog yelling and shouting at me to get my ass back in there I kept repeating myself I just want to go home I got away again ran and he tackled me to the ground my knee hit on straight on the cement very painful I must say he stand me up grabbed me by my shirt and started pulling me back towards the apartment yelling who knows what. I'm just ready about to give up my knees hurting I feel like a ragdoll I'm just waiting for someone to call the police but a part of doesn't want him back in jail. So were back to where it started argueing and fighting pushing and shoving this all happening at his aunts apartment she is awake and half drunk probably listening to everything that was happening at the time so humilliating. After two whole hours of argueing we made up and fell asleep. The next morning I wake up with a horrible headache,eyes swollen from crying too much and bruises all over my leg,arm,and I see my shirt torn up on the floor. I just can't help to think I let all this happened. Just recently me and him got into another fight he brings me down horribly and I feel like if I leave now I'll never find anybody like him there are times where he treats me like a queen. I love him very much but everytime I do try to end it on good terms he starts threatng me saying he going to bring down his" homies" to my house and start drama and how can I do that to him after so long and that I'll never find noone like him. How do I get out? I feel stuck. Can we work on our relationship is it worth working on? I've been having such a hard time sleeping this last months I probably get 3 hours a day. Yup it's the stress.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 May 2010):
He is not in any way worth your time. All the good things in the world won't make up for how he is hurting you. Get away from him.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (16 May 2010):
 No,it's not worth it. What's going on is dangerous. You may see it as passionate ,but it's just plain dangerous. You are playing with fire. You should disentagle yourself from this relationship whatever it takes- even pressing charges or moving somewhere else.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (16 May 2010):
 No."During that time he has been in jail for 8 months and no it wasn't all his fault."Denial, the rent must be cheap there because everyone want to live there."Just recently me and him got into another fight he brings me down horribly and I feel like if I leave now I'll never find anybody like him"Gosh, that would be terrible, wouldn't it. Never again being able to find a man who brings you down horribly. What girl could face that. Every woman dreams of her prince charming riding on his white horse, drunk. Tackling her and dragging her by her hairs back to the castle. I hear it is the storyline for: "Enchanted 2: The honeymoon is over."This relationship has two people who can't control themselves. Unless you want to have the Jerry Springer lifestyle, I recommend you split and try to fix your issues. Here is a hint, if you want to leave somewhere. You call a cab and leave. You do NOT starting hitting other people. It stops being wife-beating when the wife throws the first punch. Frankly, what do you want to save?
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reader, KeighleySky +, writes (16 May 2010):
 Why are you doing this to yourself? Because sometimes he treats you like a queen. Honey you need to wake up and smell the coffee. You need to get out and now, if he threatens you with 'homies' threaten him with the police. But you need to get out of this relationship because it isn't love, if it was love he wouldn't hurt you. I've had my fair share of tiff's but i've never been hitten by my boyfriend. You need to be strong and get out now, whilst you still can, he's abusive and no matter what he says he will always be abusive and it's even worse if he's drunk. I suggest you leave him and just inform the police if he threatens to send peopel around to your house. He kept you against your will, honey he physically abused you because you wanted to leave, also that is false imprisonment. I would pack my things and leave, if you have to go to a relatives, your parents, brother, sisters anywhere but you need to get out before he seriously harms you.
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