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writes:Hi, i'm 20 and was seeing a man of 47 years old who is separated with 2 children. We met at work and started seeing each other when he had problems with his wife, who he eventually separated from. For the past year we were seeing each other and got along really well, and we were both happy spending time together, but he had his doubts about what other people would think, and also the age, but the relationship carried on regardless. I had no doubts to this relationship and knew it was something i wanted regardless of what other people thought. A few months ago he said he was no longer interested, when i asked him why he said my age, and my parents, and that it wouldn't work out and he can't handle things, but said he still loved me.He says he misses the relationship but we wouldn't get back together. I found out a couple of days ago that my area manager interfered a while back saying he had to end the relationship with me. My fear is that people have pressured him at work to end this relationship. I love this man very much and don't know what to do. Please help!
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reader, Aunt tilly +, writes (1 May 2008):
 I know you're hurting right now and that you feel that other people have interfered, and maybe you feel they should have just kept their nose out. But in reality this man may not of been over his marriage breakup, and he most lightly is missing his children. Before he can move on he has to get over his past elationship with his wife and getting divorced, if thats the path he goes is not an easy one. On the other he may go back to his wife. You are only young and even though you may love him you have to try and understand that he has some very important decisions to make about his life, and he cant do that if he's started another relationship. The poor man needs time to heal.
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reader, Ask oldersister  +, writes (30 April 2008):
 This is a grown man, he knows what he wants and what he doesn't want. He has decided overall that this relationship isn't going to work and work/societal pressures are only a small part of that. It may have just been the straw on the camel's back but you are just going to have to accept that it's over. He would have not gotten involved with you if the reasons he broke up with you were so important- they weren't. At your age, there is so much more that you don't understand that a man his age does- he is in a different phase in his life than you are. You also got involved with someone that just separated, not even divorced. Do you really think that it's so easy to just end a marriage involving 2 kids? Most men that separate go back to their wives, and there is a reason he is not divorced yet. I'm sorry, you got caught in the middle of something that you haven't had experience in yet. I know you love him and this must be very difficult. Take care.
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