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writes:I'm curious.I jus want 2 know has every person cheated at least once in thier lifes? I jus find that alot of people on here have alot of questions about it n it seems alot of us have done it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2006): I am deeply in love but i still cheat and dont know why. Is it beacuse I m still young or im not ready to seetle down!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2006): I think EVERYONE has the potential to cheat, but not everyone will.
Hopefully the ability to know how the other person will feel, and how you will destroy the relationship, the other person, and perhaps even yourself will stop you. But somtimes some people have to sadly go through that experience to realise what a mistake it was. But then there are serial cheaters, who had a lacking capacity to ever really care and respect others. All people are different but you can never say everyone will do something, or that some people never will. We're a very complicated species; you just have to judge someone on who they are now, and on the lessons they have learnt from the past.
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reader, bonym +, writes (15 September 2006):
 Never ever cheated and I would like to think I never would. xxx
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (15 September 2006):
 I couldn't speak for the entire world or even the entire US but I know that I am guilty of cheating on my ex. Believe me, thats something that is really not what its cracked up to be. I hurt the person I love most in the world. If you love who you cheated on then you hurt by hurting them. Its a terrible thing and I for one will never venture into that realm ever again. Its bologna to believe once a cheat always a cheat. I'm living proof that you will not always be a cheater.
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reader, Raona +, writes (15 September 2006):
 Well I have never cheat on any of my two partners. But I have been cheat on. And nothing in this world can take that pain and emptyness you fell away. When I found out my partner was cheating I was physically sick, and psychologically it has damaged me. I am so scared i'll get cheat on again because of the man I am refering to, so at the end of the day, i'd never cheat. Because in my eyes thats the worst thing you can do to a human is break their heart.
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (15 September 2006):
 This is not perhaps the most appropriate place to seek this opinion, as by the very nature of it, people are on here because they are having problems, and as such are not representative of society in general.
You will probably get biased results if you ask on here, as most of the questions are put by people who are suspicious of their partners, or they are having problems with cheating spouses, or are encountering or dealing with the consequences of cheating or having been cheated on in the past.
These same people can help give valuable advice based on their own particular experiences and mistakes, but of course not everyone's situation is the same.
I think it is much easier to cheat these days, with the advent of mobile phones and the Internet, etc, so it is now more important than ever to take the time to choose your partner carefully - this involves preferably knowing about their past - not only from their own say-so, and their reputation, also listening to their family, friends, and even workmates.
People sometimes cheat out of boredom, selfishness, or a lack of self-discipline, or to boost self-esteem lost due to the neglect or cruelty of a partner. It is very difficult to stay a lifetime with just one person, and never look at another, but if the love is there, and it is re-inforced continually, it grows strong enough to last the test of time. If and when that love fades, it then becomes easier to look elsewhere for the validation we all need. Hope I have been some help.
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reader, uonlyliveonce +, writes (15 September 2006):
 maybe alot of us have but we cant speak for everyone im sure alot of people have never cheated at all. and people cheat for differant reason some people genuingly think they are in love with two people and some people cheat purely for sex and dont care who gets hurt.
i have cheated in the past but to be honest whatever the reason nothing justifies it its still not right whatever the reason
people who cheat are weak minded there isnt any need to do it i'll be the first to admit
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reader, lboy +, writes (15 September 2006):
 hi, i don't think that everyone has but i think that i would be safe to say that most of us have thought about it, but don't believe ever thing that you hear cos it may just be lies or they say it cos someone else has done it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2006): I have never cheated and never would I have been cheated on and it is the worst feeling ever He then didnt last with the girl and asked me back out to wich I said no The feeling of having your heart broken is so bad and nothing anyone can say can fix it so cheating is something id never consider
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