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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I went out on a first date with a guy I met a party and we hit it off. We exchanged numbers and talked and texted every night for weeks before going out on a date. The date went well...as well as first dates can go. And he asked me out again that very night, I agreed and was excited about the upcoming second date. However, he canceled the day before the date, apologizing and explaining that he had work to do. Normally if a guy cancels, I assume it's because I'm not that important to him, so I move on. However, I liked this guy and thought there was potential so when he called later to reschedule the date, I said yes. I gave him the benefit of the doubt that work was urgent and couldn't be put off. Then the second date comes, and guess what? He had to cancel again. This time he didn't even bother giving me an explanation, just apologizing and saying we'll do it next time. He didn't even call this time to cancel. I called him a few hours before the date to confirm and was told then that he couldn't make it. Clearly, he's not the least bit interested in me. I don't know what's wrong with me, but I still wanted to see him again. Fast forward a few days to today. We both are leaving town for Thanksgiving tomorrow, so we won't see each other for a few days. He told me he was really busy with packing and last minute travel stuff. But then I find out through facebook that he's going out tonight. And I feel like, if he really wanted to see me, he would have asked me to hangout with him tonight right? I hate that I've become that girl that waits by the phone for the boy to call when knowing full well that he's not even a little bit interested in me. It's the fact that he keeps asking me out after canceled dates that keeps my hopes up and keeps me around waiting for him. Has anyone been in this situation before? I should move on right? Find someone who actually is into me? Grrr, i hate dating. I want to skip all this and go straight to the cuddling on the sofa in pj's part. :(
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reader, Zuie  +, writes (25 November 2010):
You sound totally awesome, and like you completely already know what you should be doing and just want us to confirm it. Delete this guy from Facebook, it'll stop you from being updated of his nights out, and if he's at all interested he'll be checking your page. So when he sees you're no longer friends he'll get the message that you realized you deserved way better.
As long as he thinks he can blow you off and you'll still be there waiting you will never get the point where you're happy cuddling on the couch. And just to say, even if the Facebook delete does prompt him to step up his game, he'll never be worthy of your couch. Please remember that.
All the best to you and the next guy lucky enough to take you out!
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (25 November 2010):
 "Grrr, i hate dating. I want to skip all this and go straight to the cuddling on the sofa in pj's part. :("
Amen to that.
I think you already know what you should do in regards to this guy...
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