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writes: Hi. I know there may be no point mentioning this, as it was a long time ago, but I just wanted people's opinions. I was recently thinking about a boy I used to like at school. I liked him for about two years, I was in year 10 and year 11 when I liked him. Year 11 is the last year you are in high school here in the UK, then you leave. You leave school at 16 here, so I was in between the ages of 14 and 16 when I liked him.He used to tease me a lot, such as I remember, once when he grabbed hold of my school bag and ran away with it a bit and he took a book out of my bag and said "it says you love me on here!", he really said our names, but I don't want to type them and once, I was upset when I got out of a class as something bad had happened, once the class had finished, it was lunch time. He kept teasing me about what had happened and I swore at him. He'd never heard me swear before. A bit later, during the lunch break, I saw him and he was stood with a group of friends. When he saw me, he walked away from them and put his arm round me and said "I can't believe you swore at me before". He also showed me a photo of when he was little. A couple of my friends were with me and he told them that only I could see the photo.There was another time when he got told off my the teacher for talking too much in class, he was talking to me, but he tried to blame me as well! He got sent out the class, he blamed me after he was told to go outside the classroom and it made me wonder if he said that so we would both have to stand outside the classroom.There was another time, it was upsetting for me, when I heard he was going to kiss another girl in our year, you know how some teenagers just kiss each other but dont take things any further just for fun? I remember walking out of class crying my eyes out and one of my friends asked what was wrong but I didn't tell her. I saw him walk out of school with his arm round her.He used to sit at another table at the start of the class we were in together, but then after a while and this was during every lesson, he'd come and sit at my table with me and my friend for the rest of the lesson. He'd sit right opposite me.Once in a lesson, he kept calling me by my full name, which he knew I hated as well.At the end of school, we had some exams. During one of them, he was sat behind me, funny enough, our surnames were next to each other alphabetically, in exams we had to sit in alphabetical order. When he was sat behind me, he kept tapping my chair gently with his foot, and even pulled my chair back at one point. This was before the exam started though.In another exam, I was sat next to him, believe me, it was distracting! It was funny when I walked in though, as I was at the other end of the room, trying to find my seat and he shouted my name and shouted " you're sitting here next to me!". I managed to get on with my exam ok, but he finished before me and he kept staring at me.All the time I liked him at school, he didn't know I liked him, until just before we left. I asked him if he wanted to go to the Leaver's dance (which is called the prom in America, in case any Americans are reading this, but he said "aww, I'm not going to it".A few months after we had left school, my brother asked him out for me, I was too nervous to ask him, but he said no. Soon after, I saw him and a large group of friends outside a store. A couple of his friends came in, and they asked me if i would kiss him! As in a proper french kiss, like he had with the other girl in our year! I was stunned and was also a lot shyer then. He came in and denied he wanted to it, but he had a smile on his face when he said it. They went outside and his friends came in and asked me again, and I said I would. His friends sounded surprised and went back outside, I assumed so they would tell him. I waited a few seconds to see if he would come back in the shop, but he didn't. I was a bit embarrassed in case it had been a joke, plus, they didn't know this, but my mum was waiting in the car for me. I thought they might have meant for me to do it there and then, and it would have been awkward with a lot of his friends there, and my mum waiting. I know we could have been stood away from them, but my mum would have had to have waited for me. I guess it was bad timing.These days, we are both on each others friend lists on a social networking site, but he has a girlfriend now. I regret never finding out how he felt about me, if he liked me, he never told me. I'm not sure if I'd still want something to happen with us, which it probably wouldn't since I haven't seen him for ages, the last time was about four years ago, and because he has a girlfriend. It kind of annoys me as I'm more confident now, and I look a lot different. I didn't like how I looked when I was at school.Has anyone else here ever looked back on something, perhaps something similar to this and wished it could have been different? I've been out with a lot of guys since. I didn't have a boyfriend at all at school, but since I left, I've been really popular with men! I dont mean to brag, it's just the truth. It's just a shame I wasn't different then, or maybe he liked me as I was anyway. I don't dwell on it too much, I just think about it every now and then.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): I remembered a few more things. He used to say hello to my brother sometimes aswell if he saw him around school,and yet he didnt even know him properly, he just knew he was my brother. I dont know if that means anything. There was another time aswell when he walked past me when i was in the car with my mum,he was walking home from school,and he turned back round and looked afew times. I'm pretty sure someone doesnt do that if they only like you as a friend.There was another time, this made me laugh,when we both got out of our parents cars when they dropped us off at school, my car was behind his and after he got out, he was leaning inside the car talking to his mum. I walked past him and I turned back round and looked at him. He wasn't looking at me then. Later in the day, he mentioned how I had been looking at him and said I nearly bumped into a lamp post because I was looking at him and I thought, hang on, how could you know that if you weren't looking at me as well? lol !Sometimes he has done things I haven't understood though, like I didn't understand how he acted with my brother asking him out for me and him kissing the other girl in school and denying that he wanted to kiss me when his friends asked me, etc.More recently, he rejected my friend request on one website, but yet he addded me on another, but when I said hello and asked how he was on it in a private message, he didn't respond and when I left him a comment, it was only discussing films, as I had noticed he liked similar films to me, he deleted it. And yet, he has invited me to join some groups of his on the website that he has either created or is a member of. Strange behaviour.I wish I could bump into him again, but unfortunately, I dont live in the same town as him now. I live in a nearby town though.
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reader, blawndie  +, writes (20 November 2008):
 Aw, it does sound like he had a crush on you in a little school children kind of way. I do think about what if I pursued someone who I thought had feelings for me before. When I was in grade (that's what we go by in America) 10, this guy was in grade 12 and we actually hung out a few times but nothing ever happened, partly because I was too scared of rejection. I never really asked or acted assertive with him or anything and I wonder what would happen if I did, also, I was dating this guy for 6 months about half a year ago and he just broke up with me for no reason except that he just didn't do "relationships" well, I always wonder if there was a point in the relationship, or if I said something to change his mind, I wonder what I could have done differently, but I guess I'll never know!
I think it would be cute if you asked him out, if he had a girlfriend or not, just for coffee so you guys could catch up. I think he might say yes now that he's a little more mature probably.
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