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writes:Many years ago, back in high school, I dated a wonderful woman whom I was deeply in love with. For various reasons, we broke up but I never forgot her. After high school I saw her a few times but was never able to reconnect with her. I have thought of her often over the years and have very fond memories.Of course we both moved on to lead our own lives. Periodically over the years though I would get these strange sensations about her, like she was in trouble or having problems and sure enough, I would find out that indeed there were issues in her life. I have ignored this the best I could and had not talked to her in over 30 years until very recently. Most recently, over about the last 10 months I have had the most intense of these sensations ever. Finally, about 2 months ago I contacted her and sure enough she was experiencing multiple problems, and even to the day and detail the feelings and sensations I was having were incredibly accurate.I have prayed and prayed about how to handle this, and the sense that I get from my prayer is that I must address this and help her. Like there is some sort of plan that I have to follow through with but I don't know what it is. I have been spending time with her, helping her with her house, talking to her and just being a friend. And I am falling in love with her again.I want to do the right thing, and am compelled by coincidence, or God's plan, or something. I wasn't searching for a relationship, but I have and have always had this connection. Yes, I am married. The relationship has been incresingly strained over the last seven years (been married 19 years and been together for about 24 years). The strain isn't her fault or my fault, its both of us. So my plan so far is to try to follow the path that is being layed in front of me, and follow my intuition, which I have tried to ignore, and hopefully I will understand what this is all about.Has anyone ever experienced anything like this? Sometimes I'm just not sure how to deal with it.
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reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (8 May 2008):
 Yes, I have this kind of connection with an ex from many years ago. I really do believe you can be that intune with someone and it can carry on for years because I've experienced it myself. It's the same type of deal as yours, he calls instinctively when I am going through hard times and he is always hyper aware when things are going on in my life- good and bad. However, this doesn't mean that we are meant to be together or there is some big plan driving us closer- it is what it is and there was a reason it ended. Over the years, you have had these strange sensations about her, which were accurate, but you never acted on them because you had a strong marriage and this connection was put in the proper perspective. The only thing that has changed is your marriage, not the connection with this ex. It's not like all of the sudden you were blind to what this connection "really" meant, you are just using the connection to escape a rough situation presently. The actual path being layed out to you is a new one, not a historical vibe. This new path has to do with change and your future and that will involve looking at what's wrong in your marriage and having the strength and courage to face and fix it, I believe that's what God is trying to tell you, as you put it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): I am going thru this with my husbadn he is talking to an e and they are just friends.My relationship is strained with him as well. First it was emails, then texting now calls and they talk daily. I know this because he has told me. I dont know what to think anymore, he swears he loves me and that he wants to work on us and ourselves. But its becoming worse by the day. He said he doesnt understand she is from 15 years ago and they are just friends. I can tell you from my end I feel bad for your wife. You are wrong. If you are not happy get out. Just hope it is all worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): It sounds like you should see a counselor. There maybe hidden feelings and getting to the bottom of them is critical. Your marriage is on the rocks, and this may be why your going back to the past, to more pleasurable times. This is normal, but it is trying to tell you to fix the present, not the past. Our brain plays tricks on us, or we just misinterpret these feelings.
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