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writes:I have had unprotected sex and I'm young, too young to have a baby, its been a few weeks and I feel like I am, I'm worried to death because i cannot tell anyone, the thing is it only lasted a few min, and he didn't "come" at all, but pe, is a problem. My stpmach feels harder, and i feel fatter but i work out, and i look at myself in the mirror and it look different..!! PLEASE HELP ME!!! I cant get a pregnancy test either, or go to a gp because my mom would find out, and i would be killed!! Thanks, Miss Too Young
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2008): hey um i know how you feel im 16 and my mom found out though boy was she mad at me but in the end it also felt good to get off my cheast but um dont you have ny friends to get you one or a friends mom you can trust
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2007): In addition to the other advice, I would remind you that if you have unprotected sex again then you have at least 3 days to take the morning after pill that will stop any pregnancies. This is available, free of charge, from chemists. I don't really understand how your mum would find out if you took a pregnancy test or visited your GP as this will remain confidential in the UK. Perhaps it would help if you spoke to an advisor at a sexual health clinic or looked up the information on websites such as Brook?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): you wouldn't look fatter or have a hard stomach already. It took me like 3 months to put on weight and get stomach hardening. maybe you're just paranoid so you think you see these things? Just go buy a test, take it then weigh your options. you can get an abortion, but only up until a certain point, and the longer you wait the more devastating it is on you, and painful. So hurry up and do something about this. And keep us posted!!
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reader, love-him +, writes (7 June 2007):
 Hey darlin, if its bin two weeks and ur tummy feels hard etc ur not pregnant its something else (go to the doc) take a pregnancy test then continue from there. if u r pregnant dont make a desision urself about having the baby make sure you allow others to know and help u.. u shouldnt go through it alone. i realy respect you knowing you are too young! mail me if u wana talk x x x
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reader, myp  +, writes (7 June 2007):
 Honey you have to go get a pregnancy test. Your mom doesnt have to know, stop buy your local drug store pick one up then use the bathroom there. Then you'll know.
If you cant do this then go to a free clinic or have a friend take you to talk to a doctor. If you are pregnant then youll need to think about whats best for you at this time in your life. If not then you have nothing to worry about. After the fact though you should definitely think about birth control, If your mom doesnt want you on it then tell her its to make your periods regular.
good luck
-Myesha
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reader, stina +, writes (7 June 2007):
 Hi Anonymous,
I know you said you can't take a pregnancy test, but you should really do yourself a favor and go get one. Do you have a friend that could drive you to get one? Maybe ask if you could use the bathroom in the store, or go to a public restroom. Then you wouldn't have to go home and worry about your mom finding it.
Once you've taken the test, if it turns out positive (I'm *not* saying that it will!) then you should have a read about what to do on this website. I've recommended it to numerous people in your position and it has helped them tremendously: http://momdadimpregnant.com/
Your mom may freak out if it turns out that you are pregnant, but that doesn't mean that she would kill you! (Aren't you freaking out right now? She would go through the same kind of thing.) I think after she calms down she'll just want to do whatever she can to help you. You are still her daughter and she loves you. Sure, she could be disappointed, but that's not what's important here. I think she'll realize that and I think that you shouldn't focus on that. What you would need to focus on is how you're going to handle this situation. Remember, you don't have to be a mother at this point in your life. There are options (abortion, adoption...) But you can cross that road when you get there.
If you really think your mom would become violent, or if you think that you're going to need some kind of emotional support when you tell her, please find another adult to talk to. Maybe a friends' mother, another relative, someone who you would feel comfortable confiding in and who could be there with you when you break the news.
Again - I'm not saying that you are pregnant! But I just wanted to give you a little advice in case you get some unexpected results.
Please write back if you have anymore questions or anything. You are going through a very scary time right now and it's normal to freak out.
Take care.
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