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writes:Okay, this is the first time I've actually BEEN an OP, but something happened a couple of days ago that I'm wondering if it's normal or not. I'm not complaining about it, but it's never happened to me before in my life.Background - I have a healthy sex life. I'm married, and there is no absence of sex in our marriage. There are ebbs and flows, so it's not like we punch a timeclock or anything. As of now, we're not in any kind of "ebb", and neither of us are stressed out or have any sort of marital conflict.I have had occasional sleep orgasms before. Not frequently..I'd say once every month or maybe twice infrequently. I'm not usually dreaming of anything sexual, but once in awhile, I have. Sleep orgasms feel a little bit different than ones I have awake, and I know it's biological as well as imaginary, because when they wake me up, I feel the residual swelling, sense of physical release, some moisture, and rarely, inability to go to the bathroom for a few minutes while everything "calms down".This is embarrassing, but three nights ago, I had THE SINGLE most massive orgasm I have ever had in my entire life, solo or with a partner. I was dreaming, but it wasn't about anything sexual! I just felt this HUGE buildup and then RELEASE RELEASE RELEASE RELEASE that went on what felt like forever! Wave after wave after wave. I finally woke up in the middle of the night sweating like crazy...and I was SOAKED there and slightly shaking. My back and thighs and shoulders were tensed and a little sore, and when I got up to splash my face/change my underwear/use the RR, my face was totally RED and my lips redder, like I had just gotten done with an hours-long sex-fest!I absolutely swear! I don't know whether to be worried or not, and I didn't tell my husband anything. He still doesn't know it happened. I eventually calmed down and went back to bed. I felt like a million dollars in the morning except that my "parts" felt utterly spent and a little tender.So, my question to my fellow aunts, besides the fact that I'm embarrassed a bit by saying something, is...should I be nervous? Is this a symptom of something not as good? Has this happened to anyone else??? Did I just dream this and now I sound like a fool?? I was totally sober...wasn't on anything that induced sleeping, and I haven't taken any pills I haven't taken in years (immunosuppression for a kidney transplant).Should I talk to a doctor about this??
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reader, YouWish +, writes (13 February 2015):
YouWish is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all -- you put my mind at ease.
I have Polycystic Kidney Disease, which is a genetic disease that ultimately fried my kidneys, hence the transplant. One other side effect was that besides a zillion cysts on my kidneys, there are a few other benign ones on other organs, like pancreas, liver, a couple on my ovaries and so forth. The doctor predicted I may have an early menopause, but that isn't sure. That was my first wonder, if a cyst was pressing on something. But hearing the "mega-orgasms" are a known thing, I won't worry.
I've had "sleep-gasms" since my mid-20's as well, but nothing to this score. I tend to remember my dreams too! This last time, I was actually dreaming about the first time I rode in a helicopter when I was a kid...this "event" broke into the dream and that was all she wrote.
Hormones make sense to be sure! I often wondered if a guy's wet dreams meant a sleep orgasm as well, or if it was simply a discharge of sorts. But I will never be a guy, so it's a mystery to me.
Thank you all again for your help! YES, it wasn't unpleasant at all, except for the jumping out of bed and freshening up part in the middle of the night before anyone noticed!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 February 2015):
 Eric Troy says enjoy, I say: enjoy it and cherish the memory, because it might never come back.
I had something similar happening to me when I was 22 or 23 ( I guess that in my case, then ,it had nothing to do with the perimenopause hormonal peak )- out of the blue, for no particular reason I could find ( I was not specially horny, specially happy, specially unhappy, specially anything ). It happened once... and never again anymore (:.
Or, actually, I think occasionally I have had some erotic dreams later on. I am not good at all at remembering my dreams, I generally forget them seconds after I open my eyes, but you know how it is, at times I have woken up with a vague consciousness of having had a dream about sex and a vague sensation of lingering arousal. But nothing ever even remotely comparable in intensity and physical effects to THAT dream when I woke up suddenly, in the state that you describe - and remembering perfectly the content of the dream, which was not anything erotic to begin with. As a matter of fact, since in the dream I was somewhere in the English countryside, laying over a bed or sofa or something with a floral pattern- not being able to buy myself a thatched roof cottage ,I bought instead a set of sheets with a floral pattern, sort of hoping that who knows, maybe that would recreate a favourable atmosphere for this kind of dream. No such luck so far.
I don't think you have got anything to worry : hormons are weird, our mind is a weird thing too, the inconscious is the weirdest thing of them all. Who knows to what physical or mental trigger your body has chosen to respond to, and why in this way. After all even the way our body works is still somewhat a mystery, science has not explained it all or made it all predictable.
If you want tell your doctor, sure , it can't hurt, but my guess is that all he will say will be that he is envious:)
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (13 February 2015):
 I think it's the female version of men's wet dreams. Why wouldn't woman have them too?
I have them and honestly while they aren't very common they are way stronger than any I have had with a partner. And yes it IS weird to wake up to one. But I have just come to a point that WHEN they happen, I go thanks!
Unfortunately I also have events of sleep paralysis which are terrifying. The before mentioned sleep orgasm are nothing like those and maybe that is why they don't bother me.
I talked ( few years ago) with a RN friend of mine about those, and she claims it's way more common than people think, but unlike men, women aren't always overjoyed about it.
Some theories are that women past 30 have surges of testosterone and THAT is why sex drive goes up after 30 (for many).
Personally, I would not worry.
I found this article and had to chuckle. According to it 37% of women ( in 1953) had these and in 2009 (not a "serious" study like the 1953 one) 80% of women had them.
http://persephonemagazine.com/2012/03/orgasms-in-my-sleep-how-and-why-now/
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2015): Hehehe,all I can say is- I'm jealous :PI wouldn't say you dreamt it (I mean you had the evidence :P ), so you are defo not imagining it.In my personal opinion-nope, nothing medically wrong (though I'm NOT a doctor and if you are really worried you can always have a consultation with a gyno).From the little I've read/know about it- women are supposed to be in their primal sexual peak late 30s/early 40s/some 5-10 years before the menopause whenever that happens to them (menopause being different age for each woman).So,your experience clearly matches with that. (Sadly, men are supposed to be at their primal sexual peak early 20s...maybe I'll become a cougar one day?;) )My guess? No stressors in your life (happy marriage/maybe less financial trouble than when you were younger?) + your age range (close to/in the sexual peak)= happiest orgasm in your life?? ;)Enjoy :)Love,The Nonny
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2015): First of all, this is completely normal! From the sound of what you described happened, it sounds like it's most likely hormonal. Females have a sexual hormone rise around their 30's so it could just be something like that. Also, the fact you already have sleep orgasms once a month or so tells me this is a natural thing for you and your body to do anyway, this may have just been an especially big one. The only reason you should go to the doctor is if it starts happening a lot and only if it bothers you! It certainly wouldn't bother me! And they will probably prescribe some sort of hormone treatment. The point is, there is nothing to be embarrassed or worried about. Massive sleep orgasms are most frequently a sign of strong hormone regulation, good pelvic sling muscles and stress free. I only have sleep orgasms when I'm completely chilled in waking life. Its when you can't orgasm, that things aren't how they should be!Another thing I would say is, go to your doctor if its happening in your waking life without stimulation and even after the orgasm, you don't feel satisfied. This can be a sign of more sinister things like cysts creating pressure. But this isn't happening to you so don't worry!
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