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Going out with this guy I like will really upset my good friend! What should I do?

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Question - (31 October 2006) 1 Answers - (Newest, 1 November 2006)
A female , anonymous writes:

I'm in a sticky situation

Ilike this guy, lets call him X

I met X about a year ago but we wern't really that close, we were like, hi and bye kinda friends....

I really liked him, and whilst drunk, texted him saying how much I liked him. HE texted back *i dunno what to say* I kinda took it as rejection.

Fast forward the summer holiday and I'm back at school. He's suddenly taking more interst in me.

We walk to school from the trainstation together alot, just chatting and stuff. and If he sees me in the corridor he'll always walk up to me and hug me.

We take the piss out of eachother, but it isn't malicious.

Now I get onto another guy.. I'll call him Z.

I've known Z about a year too. From around May onwards he started really flirting with me. He told me(and still does) how beautiful I am and stuff. I've always let hi known I'm only love him as a friend. He prposed to me about a month agao, and while I was trying the *you don't want to marry me* he was adiment i was right for him. He's still talking about our future that we will supposivly have, and that he loves me. He used to live real close but now goes to college 200 miles away, but wants a relationship with me. I've told him no, but he won't listen to me. Should I just not talk to him?

I'm scared that if I find X likes me too, and we go out (which would make me so happy) then I would upset one of my best friends.

help me


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A male reader, geqo South Africa +, writes (1 November 2006):

geqo agony auntFirst things first, you have to sort out your feelings with Z. If you really don't feel anything for him in that way, you have to make it perfectly clear to him (I know you've tried, but you'll just have to keep trying harder!). Let him know that what he's doing could damage your friendship, and I think you both don't want to lose each other.

The text that you got back from X sounds more like someone who's flattered and dumbstruck than rejecting you. And his behaviour afterwards seems to prove this. I think you can pursue him with a clear conscience as long as you're confident that you've made the situation clear between you and Z to the best of your abilities. Don't let Z tie you down!

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