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writes:Okay so, me and my girlfriend got back together after a 1 month split up and we are doing great. Before the split up we been together for like over 3 years. Anyway, when we got back together we wanted to start off new. But now I'm concerned with something. I do not want to sound controlling or anything but I've noticed that my gf talks to her male friend at 1AM in the morning until like 3 or 4AM at night. I told her I was really uncomfortable with this and she said she understands because she would feel the same way. So I thought she would stop and now I noticed that she talked to him for another 3 1/2 hours last night after we got off the phone at 1AM. I asked her whats up and told her I was uncomfortable with this and she said that he is going through some issues. But when she talked with him before that for 3 hours he wasn't. She says he works late at night, so she can't talk to him throughout the day. She also says he has a lot of female friends and a girlfriend. If that is so, why doesn't he call his gf when he gets off of work late at night? Or his other female friends? And if I told my girlfriend I was uncomfortable with those late night calls and she still called to talk to him that late how should I react to this? Am I wrong for feeling like this? Or is it just to feel this way? That she did not consider how I felt about this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys. but do you think I should show her this thread to show her that other people think the same thing as me? Or not? I want to show her some way that I'm not the only one thinking this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): I know this is especially hard for you being a guy. We know that guys rarely (if ever) befriend women we aren't interested in sexually. You're seeing his play for your woman and don't like it. That leaves us two options. Your GF is either too nieve to see what is really going on, or she is cheating and covering it up poorly.
You've expressed your feelings. If she doesn't respect those feelings, it is probably time to end it. I've never believed in the "on again, off again" relationship. Every time I've made the mistake of thinking someone had changed, it bit me. The reason you broke up in the first place is likely to come back. Get out before things get worse.
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reader, betrayed03 +, writes (30 March 2010):
Ok, I went through the same situation but rather than just talking over the phone it was texting and he told me that it was just friends he was talking to. This started in December, I expressed myself to him just like you told het how you felt. This month I found out he had been cheating on me the whole time. So either she stops because she is not taking your feelings into consideration. Or you have to let her go cause chances are, she is cheating on you with him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): I think you have every right to feel that way. Something doesn't sound right to me. I would get to the bottom of it. Cause I for one would not put up with my boyfriend doing crap like that. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010):
When in a committed relationship, calls to a male friend in the middle of the night are is not acceptable. More so, if the bf is uncomfortable with the idea.
Your gf's mate should call his gf or his other female mates and you gf should be understanding to the fact that this does not sit well with you.
Talk to her about it and hope that she keeps her communication with this guy to more appropriate hours. If not, think about if you want to be with someone who does not take your feelings into consideration.
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reader, cherelle  +, writes (30 March 2010):
i think you have every right to feel that way... I would tell her that u dont mind her talking to him but 3and half hours or more every night is just ridiculous!!.....
Ask her how she would feel if you were on the phone to another female at ridiculous hours?
Dont ask her to stop, just ask her if maybe they could cut it to and hour or half hour?....or once a week catch up? Why dont u get her to invite him over with his gf?....check it out?
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