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writes:Hello,theres a girl i know from the internet and I've got a problem now. Well, I know her for 3 months now and i felt in love with her. We have often contact through chat, skype and webcam. Anyway we're in a relationship now and now she asked me to get more strict because I'm too soft. But she also said i should'nt be rude. Actually shes sensetive so i have no clue how to treat her if I'm really too nice. Has anybody some advices or know similar situations?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): Thank you for the answers!
Illithid I guess you're right. She said that I don't have to agree with everything she says so you're probably right that i need to get more assertive. By the way she said that she wants more mens power or something like that. That's probably that interspersion thing. So I guess i need to take over control?
By the way I hope that there are also some girls who could help and advise.
Thank you!
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (25 January 2011):
 It sounds like she's not asking you to be pushy, just assertive. You can be a nice guy without being a doormat. You ARE allowed to ask for what you want, to say no to favors you'd rather not do, or to get upset if people use you. Many nice guys constantly forgive and help people that are just users and then get taken advantage of, and that's not sexy to women. Stay nice, but don't feel that you need to always be the one to compromise. You have needs to. Stick up for what you need. (As a recovering doormat, I can attest this isn't easy.)
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 January 2011):
Please don't change. At all. You're a nice guy, and the world always needs nice guys.
What the world does not need is yet another immature girl trying to change a nice guy! Either your girlfriend accepts you as you are, or you might just as well leave her and find someone else.
Even if you did change, she wouldn't like it.
If she loves you, then she'll love and accept you for who you are.
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