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writes:I met a bloke on the net who seemed nice and we had 4 dates in about 1 year of talking online, the 1st 10 monts ago and the last 3 in the last 3 months, he told me he doesn't want a girlfriend but that he is really interested in going out with me and so on, I agreed to be friends but he wants me to call him more and more often despite not wanting a relationship, I do not have a crush on him but thik he should have not told this to me as I did not asked him anything, and I also have lots of friends so that I do not have time for them all the time and then this guy comes up telling me such thing and behaves like flirting when dating meany tips???
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reader, Astrid +, writes (6 October 2007):
Astrid is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for your help I was real good to have an opinion, I did not get off with him nor had sex I am quite traditional as regards bed matters.However I respect others doing what they want or pleaseI think you are both right thinking he's trying his luck and so on. I woulnd't like to be hurt. I won't go out with him or talk too much on the net. It's hard for me sometime to be considered as a doll or somebody stupid without criteria anyone can cheat, so that this fact and my traditional views on serious relationships have probably caused that I do not have a boyfriend and have to cope with such blokes u knowlots of love and feel free to contatc me antime in Spanish if you please Dalielepew
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (5 October 2007):
 It will be odd for two native speakers of Spanish to talk in English, but I will do that for the sake of other agony aunts and uncles, who might want to give opinions, too.
For one thing, he doesn't want a serious relationship with you, but he's trying his luck. "Maybe she'll agree to go out with me and one thing will lead to another..." This is his idea.
Then, he doesn't seem to really understand what sort of a relationship you have. Of doesn't want to understand.
I say, speak very clearly about what you feel and how you see him, and, if he won't follow, block him and never talk to him again.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (5 October 2007):
 It really is hard to tell from your post what the whole picture here is. My best guess judging by his insisitence on not having a relationship but then wanting to "go out with you" is that he's looking for sex. Would it be right to assume you haven't given him his wish? After 3-4 dates if he was just interested in sex ( which it sounds like to me ) then he will rapidly lose interest and move on to his next target.But I'm sorry to say your post needs a bit more detail to really be able to offer a valid opinion.
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