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writes:I have been in a relationship with the the same girl for the past 6 years and living with her for the past 3. Recently I have noticed a significant change in her, she has become very confrontational about things, acting very jealous in regards to who I talk to, and so on. It has gone to the extent of her going over the cell phone bill and keeping a list of the phone numbers she doesn't recognize. This past week I found hidden on my iPhone a GPS Tracking app so she could keep tabs on me. I have yet to confront her about it because I am so beside myself I am at a loss on what to say. Any ideas?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (10 June 2010):
 Everyone has given good advice. I think they have the best approach.An alternative you might try would be to play with it a little. First I'd delete the app. Then start talking about how concerned you are that someone may be stalking you because you found it and didn't put it on there. Don't let her know that you are sure it was her. Run with it. See how she reacts. Does she lie and pretend to be concerned? Does she come clean?
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (10 June 2010):
 Why?
Has there been a reason why she changed?
One reason people suspect their partner of cheating is because they cheated themselves. You trust others by your own nature after all.
I don't know if she has, but it would explain a radical change in her attitude. Unless of course there is something else.
Confront her and don't take no for an answer when you ask for the why. You got to find out why she doesn't trust you anymore because these things don't get better on their own.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (10 June 2010):
I'm half of the mind to say to you that you should just go see her and totally flip in anger. The other half says handle this maturely and you're more likely to get answers. I'd just say to her calmly that you've noticed a major change in her behaviour and you want to know why she is acting so insecurely and why there is a GPS tracking app. Just be calm, but lay all the cards out. Clearly if you get no answers, then you should think about moving on.
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