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writes:So there is this guy I like. But I don't like him enough right now to date him. I'm kind of more looking for a FWB. What should I do ?? If I tell this guy I like him but just want to be FWB maybe he will just see me as that and then later on not want to be anymore with me and just use me. Should I wait ?? Should I find a guy I don't like really to have FWB with ?? It's stressful not having that sexual attraction anymore. Reply to this Question
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reader, Yos  +, writes (14 May 2009):
 I recommend waiting until you meet someone that you have a strong mutual attraction with. Then try the whole boyfriend / girlfriend / relationship thing. It's worth it :) FWB usually leads to heartbreak and problems on one side or the other.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (14 May 2009):
Why do you want a FWB?
At your age you can't be THAT desperate to have someone to snog when drunk!
Yes find a guy you won't like, but trust. A friend who doesn't mean that much to you.
You CANNOT have feelings for him because the whole point of friends with benefits is that you are JUST FRIENDS.
Since you will be doing the physical stuff though as soon as he meets a girl he actually wants to be with then he'll stop speaking to you because obviously he won't want to mess it up with her.
Also, if you like a guy and then just do stuff with them without the commitment then they will NEVER see you as girlfriend material.
You have to be really emotionally mature to deal with FWB and control your feelings and separate them completely from the physical stuff.
It's also best if you don't see them often as then it's easier to just meet up, have a great time, do the dirty, and move on. You don't want to know about all the girls they are dating and being caring to inbetween those times.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): U tell a guy u just want an FWB and some will jump at the chance but then again maybe you become just "easy" in their eyes and u'll never have a real relationship in ur life cause all you teenagers think about is sex.
Focus on ur studies can't u see ur country is going downhill while ur asking about sex??
Good luck and don't forget to use protection.
Don't want anymore babies.
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