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writes:Dear Cupid,I feel frozen and stuck in my life. I am unable to motivate myself to do the simplest things and I am getting really frustrated. I have been this way since ending an affair with my first love. I was happily married when he contacted me. I told him to "go away" at first, but he was very persistent. He told me he had never stopped thinking about me and sent me mountains of written material to prove it. I began to believe him. Basically, I fell for a lot of lines.Although I was happily married, I had a commuter marriage. I see my husband about four days a month, and I have to say I spend a lot of Saturday nights alone. The old boyfriend lived very close by. I had an affair with him, but I ended it when his wife found some of our correspondence (which I think he intentionally left out for her to read) and filed for divorce. That was about eight months ago. Old boyfriend is now living with another woman.I haven't been the same person since this whole things happened. I want to go back to being the person that I was, but all I do is think about all of this. I don't know what to do to get myself back to being my old self. I use to have a lot of hobbies and interests. Nothing gets me excited anymore. I feel as if I have lost my passion for living.Any suggestions for lighting a fire under my butt?TEM
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reader, petina1  +, writes (22 January 2011):
 Analyze the situation. The affair was just that. If there was any real substance to it then he wouldnt be with another woman after his divorce he would be with you. Try to forget him and put it down to experience. You need to concentrate on getting y our life back on track. having many hobbies and interests is absolutely brilliant as a lot of people can't and won't engage in other things. But you have done before and you can do again. Look forward to seeing your husband and having a nice time when he comes home. I wish my husband only came home a few days a month sometimes. But that isnt really good for you because you have looked for companionship elsewhere. Isnt there anyway you could move closer to be with your husband more to rekindle that relationship. So the fire under you butt would be to get out and do those things you can do and enjoy. don't forget, the old boyfriend didnt take long to find another woman, or was she already in his life all along. Get angry about this and get on with your life.... go on... You can do it. xx
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