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writes:Long story cut short. I've known this guy for about five months now, we've talked really really often for the last three months {it's really rare we don't talk with each other at least once a day, and we usually call/IM each other about three or four times a day}; we're both not that sociable either, so it's rather uncommon for both of us. Anyway, a couple of days ago we were talking as usual when I mentioned my ex and how I thought he wasn't attracted to me; he asked me why I was sure about it and I replied that I know when a guy is. At this point, he suddenly asked me if I thought he was attracted to me, stating he wanted to test my abilities; I was puzzled, at first I didn't answer, but then I said that his sometimes apparently being slightly jealous made me think he could be just a little attracted to me. His reply was that the answer was acceptable and he could go with that. What I've been wondering since that conversation is if he does like me; he's protective toward me, worries {even too much} for me, doesn't like when I talk to him about other guys or past relationships, told me I'm really pretty, smart and that he likes talking to me. Point is, he has a girlfriend; though, he says {and she says this too} that they don't have deep feelings for each other, that she's more like a friend than anything, a sort of friend plus benefits relationship {without sex, though, he's still a virgin} with a level of exclusivity. And no, he's not a player or someone who flirts. Are there any chances he likes me as something more than a friend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): Thank you for your time and advice.
I definitely tried not to actually have any hope about us, and I'll keep on trying, even if it's hard when he says he likes talking to me about anything and that he'll eventually IM/call me even more.
Yes, I don't get their relationship too, honestly. He said that this way there's no drama nor deep passions; he also said that he would have broken up with her if another friend had a good reason for him to do so. So, yeah, I'm confused about that as well; may be because he states not to believe in love, but I think that after we talked about the importance of love, I'm slowly persuading him that it is important.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): It does sound as if this guy likes you; however, he has a girlfriend; I don't think you must put your hopes to high; he does not sound like the type of guy who will mess around; I suggest you stay good friends and see what might happen.
Best wishes.
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reader, Ember13  +, writes (8 July 2008):
I think he might like you as more than a friend but I'm really confused with his g/f.
The don't have deep feelings for each other so it's a FWB but with a level of exclusivity. I don't really get this. . . To me it sounds like a relationship. Whether he likes you or not if they're exclusive then he's with her and not you.
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