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writes:I need help! a lot of help. Well me and my x bf have been on and off for a year. my friends hate it but im really happy even though im hurt when we break up. He says the sweatest things and i feel like my friends dont see the side of him that i do. they think he is annoying and not good for me. They have told me this all the time and yes i do listen. We are thinking about getting back together. Should i? When im with him its like nothing ive ever felt b4 but when we break up it hurts. Reply to this Question
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reader, crimson_kiss +, writes (2 April 2009):
 Being on an emotional roller coaster is very difficult to handle. The main thing you need to worry about is YOU. How do you feel? I understand your friends are only wanting the best for you, but in reality only you know what is best for you.
If they were true friends, they would stand by ANY decision you would make. Does it really matter what your friends think about your bf?
I have had a similar situation and let me tell you, there are plenty more friends out there that will be supportive of you and your decisions NO MATTER what they are!
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (2 April 2009):
 You're friends know you, I'm guessing, longer and better than he does. So they have seen you during your ups and downs and are probably more objective about how down this guy makes you feel at times.
True in the end you have to follow your heart, but imagine what they're seeing. They have a good friend who is being put on an emotional roller coaster. And if they haven't seen this "sweet" side of him, it's most likely because that's not really who he is, but rather just what he shows you to get you back. If he was a sweet guy with a good disposition, then your friends wouldn't have so much beef with him.
In this case, I would probably call it quits with him. I think your friends really are trying to look out for you.
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reader, enjoimx +, writes (2 April 2009):
 Seems like an emotional rollercoaster that might be more trouble than its worth. Maybe take a longer break this time and see what happens. Focus on your own life and not your dating life, and you will be more clear headed about whether or not to keep riding this rollercoaster with your b/f. My guess is the relationship has already seen its glory and is now fading.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2009): Your friends have your best interests in mind and don't like to see you hurt. I'm sure it's very frustrating for them to give you all the support when he hurts you and then to see you get back together again. After awhile, that gets old. I dont think it's very fair of you to expect them to like him. I suggest you make a decision on your relationship and stop dragging your friends into the drama. Your friendships will probably last longer than this relationship and you don't want to wear those out.
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