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writes:I have a problem with my group of 'close nit' friends. We have been friends since first school we are now in year 10 at high school and its going really bad - i feel so upset about it all! Firstly i chose different lessons to all my friends because they do dance etc and i don't so i don't see them in lesson time.At the weekend, for one day, i see my bf (as he lives far away and thats the only time i get to see him)So, at lunch and break times i hang around with them but its like i'm not there. One of my friends always talks to me on msn and so i confronted her about it and she just turned it into a joke. Plus they keep things from me and one of my friends tell another close friend of mine (the only gd friend i have) things and says 'oh don't tell her' which my gd friend obviously tells me. They don't slag me off they just don't include me in anything and blame it on my bf who i only see on a saturday. Fair enough if ditched them for him but it has never go to that. Should i ditch my so called old friends and be a loner at school (i don't get along with many people at school) or carry on being un-happy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2007): this is happening to me right now...i am 17...and only this year have my friends turned on me! I suggest that you join a club or something either now or this summer or next year!!! i have a lot of friends in other groups and now i am hanging out with them
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate...
I just found out through my close friend i was talking about, that it's one of their birthdays this weekend and she's having a sleepover and a meal for it - i'm apprently not invited to this sleepover but only the meal. The thing is when i asked one of the girls who i talk 2 on msn, she acted like she didn't know their was a sleepover or meal. Then i found out that the close friend of mine that she wasn't sposed to tell me that the other girl was having a sleepover...so are they going to tell me that im not invited or what! What should i do? :(
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reader, cd206 +, writes (15 May 2007):
 I think it would be a shame to lose friends that you've had for such a long time,especially since as you said you find it difficult to make friends. Girls will be bitches and especially at your age it's a hard habit to break. This would be my suggestion.... have a sleepover and invite all the girls over to your house and tell them you feel left out since you started doing different courses and don't want to lose their friendship because it means so much to you. I think they'll be less likely to be bitchy on "your territory" and might actually listen.
Ultimately you need to make this decision but I think you'd regret it if you say goodbye to these girls. After all our oldest friends know us better than anyone else ever will.
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reader, lynniepink1978 +, writes (14 May 2007):
I think the problem here is that you have outgrown them, stop trying... Do you really want to be involved with whatever it is they are keeping from you, its prob stuff that doesn't really interest you anyway.
Your so called friends are exactly that - NOT Friends.
They may also be jealous of your bf, have you thought of that?
Girls are funny creatures and envy can take many forms,
I would suggest to write a list of things pro's and con's to hanging around these girls, if the con's outweigh the pro's (trust me they will) then i would write them all off and make new freinds with people who have similar interests to you, join clubs and start a hobby like acting, music or dance out of school, it won't be long until your 16 and you can go to 6th form, college and make nicer friends who are worth your time.
In the big scheme of things these silly girls don't matter!
Trust me this happened to me when i was 17, my school mates crapped on me big style and i chose to grow up and move on, they hated me for fighting back and standing alone, none of them would have had the balls to do it! It wasn't long before i made nice friends in college on a cool art course, then i went onto uni in London the following year & made great freinds who i'm still very close to today and that was nearly 10 years ago...
Do you know what it was the best thing my so-called mates ever did for me :-)
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