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anonymous
writes:So, my boyfriend has been fingering me and when he puts his finger up my vag, it feels like so much pressure but it's kind of uncomfortable. Idk if this is because its new..but ahhhh! What should I do!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): You should always just be honest... I know how you feel like you're going to upset him by putting his technique down but it was only the other day that ex boyfriend of over two years told me that he never used to enjoy head that much because I kept catching him with my teeth and I wish he'd just told me that whilst we were going out.
Plus I can't cum from fingering as you put it - fingers going in and out of the vagina - I much prefer and cum from clit stimulation so perhaps that would feel much better for you. Ask him to try.... what do you have to loose?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 December 2011):
 Tell him that it feels uncomfortable. He needs to know so he can stop whatever he do and try other things with you. Just because he's more experienced with OTHER women doesn't mean he'll know how to touch YOU.
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reader, bluecow  +, writes (15 December 2011):
 have you had an orgasm?
Do you masturbate?
I think you need to know how to please yourself before you can expect him to.
Learn and explore what feels good to you, most often its clitoral stimulation thats needed to bring a woman to orgasm. When you have found what feels good to you... then show him.
Experience is really just numbers and a very broad idea about what to do. Each person is individual so what turns them on and what stimulation they want will be individual too. Therefore no matter what his experience, the first times with a new person will be about finding out what feels good.
On top of all of this your a virgin. Anything inserted into your vagina is likely to feel strange, uncomfortable and even hurt a little. The best way to overcome this is through not going there until you have just orgasmed AND to take it very slowly.
Hope that helps
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (15 December 2011):
 Why not tell him what feels good to you? He would want to know, I hope.
One idea for you is to tell him that he should touch and 'finger' you as though someone was doing the same thing to his scrotum. That might help him understand what's happening for you physically.
Just tell him that it doesn't feel good. Inexperienced guys may think that it does, that doesn't make them bad guys.
Time to take charge of what happens to your body. Learn what you like and learn how to communicate that to him!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe isn't just putting his finger in there right away, there's a lot of other stuff he does beforehand and he goes back and forth between rubbing my clitoris and putting his finer in my vagina. He is much more experienced (and older) than I. It feels good some of the time and others, I'm just not sure what it should feel like.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (15 December 2011):
 It's because fingering isn't just pushing his fingers up your vagina, fingering should start/be with clitoris stimulation. Women don't orgasm solely from penetration, we orgasm from clitoral stimulation. Even when women are able to orgasm from penetration, it's because it either directly or indirectly stimulates the clitoris.
Do you masturbate? If yes, you should put your hand over his and show him how you like things. If no, you need to start so you can show him how you like to be touched.
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