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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi. I am frustrated.Lately we have been having trouble at work. We are a bunch of girls that work together so of course you would expect some bitchiness. However for two years the team has been running very smoothly until the very arrival of a person no-one likes, and for good reason, as she has been snitching and telling people bare faced lies, which have been found out, but will anyone confront this girl. NO!I have escaped some of this girls reporting, and i am not as against her as some of them are. I just try and ignore some of the stupid things she says. I've no patience for such nonsense.However, the team frequently complain to me, and i offer as much advice as i a can, i take my time to discuss and advise, and then what do they do but completely ignore my advice. OK perhaps it wasn't good enough, perhaps i had spoken gibberish but why not tell me so at the time and then i can wash my hands of the whole fiasco and they can deal with it themselves.And yet, the very moment i start having problems, i see no one for dust.How is this fair?I wash my hands of the lot of them. But of course, that is not in my nature. I care too much someone outside of work said to me. And i do, i don't like to see the team upset. But its the injustice of it when there is no one there for me.Oh well. An advice much appreciated, and i will take note lolI don't know why i laugh i am not feeling at my brightest at the moment.Thanks
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (29 November 2013):
 If you are the Team Leader you need to figure out how to stop this drama, if you can't do it yourself, talk to HR or higher ups and have her either moved or REMOVED.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (28 November 2013):
Speaking of gibberish, I had a hard time understanding what is going on, but I don't think it matters. Why don't you confront her? If you feel it needs to be done, why is it someone else's job?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 November 2013):
You'd actually be very surprised how hard it is to stand up and confront someone when you work with them. Apart from anything else, if could backfire and you could get into trouble. But, most of all, people just plain don't like confronting each other.
I suspect they come to you, because you're the one they know they can count on. This is how I am in my job. It's why I work extremely hard without thanks! It's also the reason that I know I can go to management with suggestions, and I know that they will listen.
Perhaps you, like me, are the person who should be taking this further? Would you be willing to go to your HR department and explain that there is a trouble maker and could they quietly take note of the situation? Or would you be willing to speak to the others to get them to come with you?
If I were you, I'd be the one trying to take this further. I wouldn't confront her outright, but I would get a few others together and pay a visit to HR to get advice.
Hope it gets better.
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