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writes:Hi everyoneThanks for helping me, I'm now doing my best to try to get over the heartbreak of the last couple of weeks. The only thing I'm worried about is the festive season coming up. I get a fortnights break during Christmas and am worried about how I will keep myself occupied to stop myself thinking of the ex and how she may be having a whale of a time with a new guy while I'm still stuck in a rut remembering last years Christmas and how we were so close. I really want to be able to enjoy Christmas as I have always enjoyed this time of year.However, I feel so miserable due to my recent break up that I'm considering not even putting Christmas decorations up, I'm struggling to see the point without the happiness of previous years.I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions on how I might be able to get out of this depression that I have no doubt will become even more severe now that I am going to be alone without the woman I loved at Christmas. Suffering with the knowledge that she may be dating other people while I still nurse a broken heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): the man i love left me just a few days ago and i can barely breathe. tell me that almost a month later it's getting better...im sure it's horrible still, but at least better? my last breakup took me almost a year to recover from and this one will be worse, only 3 years together but he was the center of my world, and without the center everything else fell to pieces. im 1500 miles from my home- moved with him to his state, and although i have been here almost 3 years i dont have many people to associate with...all his friends are now out of the question. tomorrow i will be volunteering at a soup kitchen - that way i wont have to be alone, and maybe being around people with problems bigger than mine will help...but i doubt it. havent stopped crying in 4 days- finally i had to leave the house regardless, so i cry while im pumping gas, cry at the grocery store, cry at work...it hurts
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reader, unbrokenheart  +, writes (17 December 2008):
There is nothing quite like a broken heart at Christmas. I own a company called unbrokenheart....it is for people trying to recover from a broken heart. A sterling silver broken heart with a strand of gold to mend it. You can see them at www.unbrokenheart.com. Many, many people order these unbrokenhearts at Christmas. So, I feel safe in telling you that I believe you can find help in the message of this unbrokenheart. You receive it broken and you receive the gold to mend it with...when you are ready. There is a beautiful inspiring message that goes with it. You can see them at www.unbrokenheart.com. If you would like me, please contact me directly and I will give you a very special 25% off coupon.
And most of all, no matter what else you do...be good to yourself....do something fun....buy yourself a prize....call an old friend...sleep well and eat well...those are very important.....take care of your physical self....and your emotional self. Most of all...be kind...to you and your beautiful heart. Catherine, unbrokenheart.com
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reader, cristin343 +, writes (1 December 2007):
 I am going through the exact same thing. You have to focus on the future and spoil yourself a little bit. Do things to treat yourself and keep busy!The hardest times for me are when i am not busy and find myself alone. Do you have family to go visit? When you find yourself getting nosalgic for last year and the 'great things' that are over, try to remember the worst times and reasons that you are no longer together. There was some reason that you two seperated, it was not meant to be. There is someone else out there for you and every day that passes you're a day closer to meeting that person. In the meanwhile, isnt it about time that you bought that plasma tv/motorcycle/nice pair of shoes/vacation to bermuda you've been wanting?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): I was in your situation last year. My now ex partner met another woman in November and christmas was really awful. I sat and suffered and it was hard work. Luckily I had my daughter to keep me company.
One thing you could do is go out and volunteer. There are plenty of organisations needing help over christmas. You are out and about, meeting new people, and helping people, which is what christmas is really about.
Best wishes - it will get better x
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