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writes:If you decided to have sex a few times with a guy and then each move on with your lives (basically an extended one night stand), did you have sexual satisfaction from the first time or you had to give it some (more) time(s)? What to do in order not to get emotionally attached?
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reader, dougbcoll  +, writes (23 January 2012):
 sex for the heck of just having sex with different people will at some point leave a person feeling empty ,guilty, used,ect. we as people need emotional attachment through love in a long term relationship, it makes sex into lovemaking ( there is a difference ). with a person you are in love and want to spend the rest of your life with it makes a difference . you get to know that person inside and out, their likes and dislikes, what love and hate. love making becomes deep rooted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2012): Masters and Johnson found that the partners with the highest degree of mutual sexual satisfaction were long term partners.
They may not have been the most technically advanced, or have had a wide repertoire of sexual activities, or have been the most experienced with partners, but they knew the other partner, and knew how to please them.
That mirrors my experience in my marriage, and the two other sexual relationships I had before couldn't hold a candle to the current one. Twenty years out the sex is way better than it was at the beginning. My wife has had buku partners before me, many of them way more experienced than I was. All sizes, shapes, ages, and experience levels.
To to her surprise, she found our long term relationship sexual activity has been way better than the sex life she had before, neither of us expected that. In fact, she found out that the orgasm was real. "Yes Virginia, there is a female orgasm." and I helped her find that little fact.
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (22 January 2012):
You want sexual satisfaction but not to get emotionally attached? Honey, its not going to work. Sexual satisfaction comes FROM being emotionally attached. Its even true for men (trust me, I am a man) but even moreso for a woman, as men orgasm more easily.
But I will tell you, there are actually women whom I could not ejaculate with, and I think a lot of it had to do with not enough emotional attachment. Something was wrong.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (21 January 2012):
 People, especially women, rarely get real satisfaction from one night stand situations. People almost always report higher satisfaction from long term partners because you have to get comfortable enough to ask for what you want/need and get to know your partner. Fewer than 30% of women report having orgasms during one night stands, and isn't the point of having one just to have a certain kind of sexual release?
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