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writes:Why am I the last thing on his mind?My boyfriend used to be so close but lately it seems like everything comes before me. Maybe I'm just being clingy but is it wrong to want the my boyfriend to more than once in a while pay attention to me? I feel like he forgets me, like he'll prefer to play basketball with his friends or sleep rather then spend 5 mins with me. He used to say he loves me and I was the most important thing to him but how come I don't feel it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2006): suggest you take some time apart that way you will start to do other things with your friends, if it doesnt work out then perhaps he wasnt right for you and in time you will meet someone who really wants to be with you
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (7 March 2006):
Angelicc is verified as being by the original poster of the question I glad i'm not the only person who feels like that sometimes. i'm trying to talk to my boyfriend about i hope it goes well.
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reader, Cananoo +, writes (6 March 2006):
Yip, I know what you mean...you just want 5 mins PURE attention...that's all! you just want him to give you 5 min...I totally understand but when you try to talk to him you feel needy and un-confident/a looser, I am there right now and it sucks..you can't say anything because of what they think and you can't NOT say anything because it hurts too much...when you get the answer let me know...altough I find that sulking/going in a bad mood/crying and blaming yourself will do nothing...you have to talk.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (5 March 2006):
Angelicc is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthax for the advise i'll try to follow it. it'll be hard at first but i think your right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2006): I think the best thing in this situation is for you to focus on things other than your boyfriend. If he is going out with his buddies, you go out with the girls. Get involved in a hobby you enjoy, and see him when it is convenient for youAs it is, it sounds like you are always there, waiting to see him. He knows he can see you whenever he wants, and so he takes you for granted. He knows he doesn't have to make special arrangements to see you. He can go do what he wants and put you off until later. This happens with virtually all men. When they know they've got you and they don't have to put in any effort, they won't put in any effort. The more you cling and ask what's wrong, the less he cares, because he knows he's already got you.Once you become less available to him, he will realize that he can't put you off and expect you to see him whenever he feels like it. He's not calling all the shots. He also has to arrange his time around YOUR schedule. Then you become more valuable to him. The chase begins all over again, which is really what excites a man and keeps his interest.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (4 March 2006):
Angelicc is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthax for your reply, but i've tried to talk to my bf about it but each time i do i just come across clingly and over needy. which just ends up us having an arguement.
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