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writes:Ex boyfriend is now confiding in me things with his current beau aren't going well. they have been together four months she is nice quiet and kind of cold (his words) Apparently she isn't affectionate and he is wondering whether he needs to stay with her. Apparently he wants my advice on the matter, why it should matter so much now is beyond me. So i am playing his game and not saying much aside of the why dont you talk to her and sort it out. Would it stop there no i want to know what you would do. IS he testing the waters or sees me as a friend whose opinion he values? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tigerlily  +, writes (9 August 2009):
My ex did that too. We were together for a long time and he said I know him better than anyone. The thing with guys - they don't really confide in their guy friends, they turn to women to talk about their emotional issues. He views you as someone who knows him well and who's opinion he values and trusts. If it makes you uncomfortable, then just tell him you don't think it's your place to comment on his new relationship. If you want him back, you can't be the one to counsel him on this as that's a conflict of interest.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (9 August 2009):
Sounds like he just wants a female friend's opinion.
Tell him that as his ex, you really don't want to be involved and suggest someone else he could speak to.
Good Luck!! xx
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