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writes: Hi All, My boyfriend and myself have been together for two and half years. We have built such an amazing relationship and we seemed to be a perfect couple.However it all changed so quickly... We spent an amazing weekend together.. he was talking about marriage about a house. There were no signs at all that he was thinking of breaking up with me. However on Tuesday evening he told me he was working. However when i went on our bank account i could see he had withdrawn money. I was so furious that he had lied to me and gone out with his male friends partying. I dont have a problem at all with him going out with his friend. He is 22 he needs to have a life and socialise. On wednesday morning when i spoke to him he admitted that he had gone out.. he then decided to turn it around and say that he was not sure if he wanted to go out with me anymore!!! What a shock that was! You think you know people. He was unsure if he loved me?!! I dont understand how someone can fall out of love. Everything he said and done has created this illusion we are going to be together forever. So he said he needed some space to think about things.. he said he wanted to be single... but then also said i am not spliting up with you... i just dont know if i love you.So i am giving him his space.. i want to text him and ring him but i cant... i am so scared he is going to throw everything we have created... what do i do??? I am completly heartbroken.I dont not want him in my life!!! Why is this happening to me?
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reader, Annalisa  + ♥, writes (13 February 2008):
 People can get really scared when they realise they are about to settle down and never date anyone else. He doesn't want to walk into marriage only to realise he doesn't love you enough. Most men want marriage to be forever, they hate divorce! He needs to be sure!
Show him your love through support and understanding, write him a long letter telling him you'll give him the space he needs and don't call. Tell him you're doing it because you love him, but he must be honest with you and tell you if he's sure it's over. If he leaves it too long, you just need to move on.
Good luck!
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