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female
age
18-21,
bollywoodshee
writes:we have a good sex life. he worships my body and makes me feel so sexy, i literally feel like the most desirable women on the planet. however having a real orgasm is just a very rare occurance. hes big n strong n can go on and on, is ther something wrong with me? why can't i come?
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reader, kat2u61  +, writes (11 February 2008):
Are you able to have an orgasm while you masturbate? Get yourself a copy of Gael Greene's book "Delicious Sex" and get to know yourself first. You are still very young, and a lot of young women need to experiment with their own bodies before they can let others enjoy them. Just to prove it: I had my first orgasm with a man when I was 33, (I was married at 21 and had had three children by then) and I have never looked back. I know what I want and need and I go out and get it. Enjoy!!!!
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male
reader, q1605  +, writes (10 February 2008):
 The only way my wife comes from penetration is if she is on top controlling the depth of penetration etc. But it is still her rubbing things just so and really even with her on top my penis is something as far as orgasm is concerned doesn't have to be in attendence. She says it feels good to have me inside her but thats not where its originating. I read your question again after I posted before and I caught the part about your lovers stamina. Usually when i bring her to orgasm my penis is not even close by her vagina and if you were outside listening in you would be hard pressed to tell if there was actually sex happening in that bedroom
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male
reader, q1605 +, writes (10 February 2008):
There is a another sex organ that needs less direct stimulation but is as important as the one south of the border and that would be the one located just above your neck. If the stimulation down below is every thing that a skilled lover could ever hope to give you than you may need to focus on the mindset you bring to bed.Are you worried about events of the day and replaying them in your mind. Do you feel attractive and wanted and relaxed.. If your partner was not wanting sex so badly would you just as soon watch CSI reruns on the tube.I read a little pamphlet long ago that women want to be with a man that they feel appreciates them and makes them feel useful.I believe those were the exact words they used. I thought at the time this must be a relic from a different age but I've have found that it is not untrue. I've also been told that in the beginning of a relationship foreplay begins when you pick the woman up to take her out. I would imagine that a woman who has come to terms with her sexuality long ago and has had many partners needs less stage setting for a fulfilling expierience. But when I hear about a woman that has never had an orgasm I can't help but wonder if she is the biggest obstacle to overcome. Just sometimes try to uncomplicate things and actually try a little less hard
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (10 February 2008):
 This keeps coming up again and again, but the advisors here don't mind - we just have to keep typing our advice repeatedly.
But okay, my advice to young ladies centers on two things. Masturbation and cunnilingus. I think you can find past responses using this Web site's search engine at the top of the page.
Female masturbation helps you explore your sexuality and likely find out what things will turn the lights on for you. You could also invite your man to either do it for you or assist, rather than plunging directly into intercourse every time.
The magic "switch" you are hoping to find will almost certainly involve your clitoris and it's "complex," which involves most areas of the vulva and surrounding areas. Volumes have written here and in other places online and in print.
Cunnilingus is oral stimulation of first, the lips (labia) of the vulva and eventually the clitoris and other areas if your man will do it for you.
Type that word into the search engine and there are a number of good dissertations about it. It can certainly happen for most any woman, but the way most men go about it only occasionally makes it happen, and even then, with less intensity for you than is possible. I think it's a matter of getting your man to learn and utilize much more about what makes women tick. And that's one of the issues with which many advisors here are trying to help. Best wishes.
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