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*upidlover89
writes:Hi, I just need some opinions please.I began dating this guy about a year ago. He has a shore home that he has access to anytime. He has been to the home several times last summer as well as this summer. He usually takes friends and also has a boat. When I hang around his friends they usually bring up the fun they had or some details about their recent trip to the shore house. I enjoy these stories, although I myself has never been invited to go. One time he talked about how some guy whom vhe didn't even like invited himself to go, and went! Even my guy with the house drove him there! I know its not always an all guy thing because some of them have brought their girls. This weekend he decided to invite and go with some people he doesn't even associate with on a regular every day basis. Still no invite extended to me. I have not confronted him about it because I didn't want to invite myself and I figure if he wanted me there he would ask. Can you think of any reasons why I have not been invited last summer or this one? If I confront him about it how should i? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2012): You only say you're dating this guy OP, are you two exclusive? Dating to me is a pretty casual thing like, when I'm exclusive and committed that girls is my partner or girlfriend.
Don't confront him, just tell him you'd love to see that place and to let you know when he goes next time he's going because you'd like to join him. How hard is that? Is an invitation that important on principle? Maybe he's under the impression you wouldn't be interested in going.
OP if random dudes he doesn't even know invite themselves along then he's hardly going to say no to you is he? It's only a problem is he says no, this could well be a situation where he's actually quite lazy and never invites anyone and they're the ones who suggest they go etc.
Try not to think the worst unless he refuses you.
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reader, mimisoph3 +, writes (28 July 2012):
 sometimes guys want "guy time" but thats not always an excuse. he should feel comfortable to invite you. the only way to know or even get invited to that would be if you somehow mantioned it without seeming like your jealous. joke about it be like when am i going to get invited
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