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*abygirl1978
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years and we broke up about 4 times and it's always the same reason because he drinks too much, I have lost a lot of feelings for him, I really can't stand him any more!!!!Every time I leave him he comes crying back and says he is going to change but is always the same, he keeps on drinking and he's forever calling me bad names real bad.Now I met someone else and I'm starting to have feelings for him, he treats me way better then my boyfriend. But my problem here is that my boyfiend won't leave me alone. Every time I try to leave him he always makes me feel sorry for him. I don't want to be with him any more. What should I do? How can I just stop feeling sorry for him? Somebody help me
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reader, taina1980 +, writes (21 November 2008):
I agree with midge... I've been in this type of relationship before and he is a screw up. his tears may be genuine but he is definetely munipulating you because he knows from past experience that if he's sorry enough you will sgay with him... its never easy to break up with someone and you may still feel sorry for him but break it off. you already care for someone else and deserve to be treated with kindness and respect...dont enable him anymore than you have already... just leave him before he finds out that there's someone else and your problem gets worst...the only way he will change is if he wants it and as long as he has you there he wont...
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (21 November 2008):
 Sweetie, this guy needs to understand that you are moving on with your life and his sobbing will not make any difference. Cut all contact with him, if he sms's you, ignore the sms. If he calls you make an excuse not to be able to talk to him or dont answer the calls. Dont be available to him at any time, and if you do happen to encounter him, and he starts his sobbing, tell him that you are not interested in him or his nonsense, and then just walk away!Honeygirl
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reader, Midge  +, writes (21 November 2008):
 This is a game to him. He feels that no matter what he does wrong, in the end you will feel sorry for him if he puts on the water works and tells you he's sorry! I had a boyfriend like this once. I landed up staying with him for 4 LONG years!!! Why? Lord himself must know because I sure as hell cant figure it out!!!
Its simple sweetheart, drop kick his arse out of your life! You really dont need that kind of trouble in your life and trust me, it gets worse! Loads worse!
If he puts on the water works, just walk away! I think its a form of psychological abuse, because he knows it works every time.
If you have found someone that is going care for you and love you the way you deserve to be loved, what the hell are you waiting for? Get out of this terrible relationship and move on to pastures greener!
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