Even though we had really bad times we had wonderful times, too. I miss her! Help!

A male age 41-50, *ohnyc writes:

Hows it going, could use some advice here. I have been in a relationship on and off for 6 yrs now and it has recently ended.Im not sure what happened and i know sometimes when you are heartbroken you tend to not be able to see whats going on.It started off great the girl moved twice for me 900 miles which is something i can never forget.When she moved in problems started,she stole 50 dollars from me after i loaned her $450,so i told her she had to move out,things seemed to never be the same after that because i had resentment towards her but still tried to make things work.A lot of things were my fault i really never complimented her on looks or things she did in life.I always felt she was going down the wrong path,(like driving around with no insurance) and not paying her bills on time.Well the bottom line is she moved back in and gave me a hard time about helping me out with bills so i said,u gotta move out, and it turned to a huge fight.She did move out and within 3 weeks she was contacting me,trying to open the door again.So I took her back and tried to do everything right.We lived in our own apartments and saw each other on the weekends and some on the weekdays.We have always worked things out but when we got back together it seemed like,i had to really push for her to hang out and she seemed different,like she didnt care either way,it seemed like nothing i did was good enough,even talking about marriage and kids.She got a cold and we got in a small argument and that is the last i have ever heard from her it is 3 weeks since ive seen her and 2 weeks since we have talked,i am crushed and really miss her even though we had really bad times we also had really good times,I know inside she has a good heart and from what i know never cheated on me,I am 32 and really dont want to do the whole dating thing again i have so much time invested and memories with this girl it is killing me,SO my question is what do you think happened,she said last time we broke up she was devastated and couldnt eat or sleep and lost 15 lbs her doctor put her on prozac so i dont know if that is why she isnt calling, from what i can tell she didnt meet anyone else but i am up for any suggestions on what to do or how to handle this situation,i really have no family and very few friends,all im sure are getting sick of hearing this.Any advice would be helpful,thanks for reading

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A male reader, johnyc  +, writes (24 March 2009):

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