A
female
age
41-50,
*hiney
writes: was having a very terrible time with my husband and I am a student in the university. One evening my husband abused me a lot and I decided to quit the relationship that day.(though the relationship was worst for last 5 years). While I was sitting in the lobby, I saw a guys eyes staring on me, I just got lost into his eyes, I was very upset but felt very peaceful. I went inside and the other day, I looked back and smiled and he winked at me. we smiled couple of times more and then kept checking me out. We did not talk with each other. I fell for that guy so much that I decided to ask him myself. Since that day was the last day of the class, I did not want to loose him but just waited for him to start the conversation.He started conversation with me and I handed the note to him asking about his opinion. He seemed a nice guy and then he said that he is married. I said I am also married.We went outside the class and he loaded me with lots of compliments and I felt the attraction in his eyes.But I said I am sorry if you are married. We left and I asked for his email address and he gave it to me.I did not give him my e mail address. Since I was under trauma his looks gave me a divine peace, got so schizophrenic about him and wrote a big email telling him about my feelings, nothing passionate but just love feelings. But I know he was married. When I tried to email him, I could not find his email address. But I always felt that if love is so strong he will come to me myself. And one day I saw his email in my email box. He managed to get my email from somewhere. I felt that he is expecting something more out of me, so I sent him the email that I wrote to him. He asked me that we have to talk in person and he asked me where I have my thursday class. I told him the course is in other city. He read my email many a times and then said that he is married and does not want to take the risk for his family as of now. He told me to wait and he will not meet me on thursday. I thought If he has something for me, he can come to other city to meet me.When I went to other city to take the class in the evening, I was surprised to see him there in class. He got that course added. He texed me that he is sorry that he doubted me.He kept staring at me most of the times and felt quite upset. When the class ended, I just moved out of the class without talking to him.In the night I got an e mail from him, a very decent email of proposal from him. He complimented me a lot and wanted to sleep with me.I was thoughtless but I felt that he came after me, so It should be ok. I send him the e mail and said ok.We chatted each other day, he was asking me many questions and I was replying, I told him to take your time, he always said that there is no commitment yet, I said fine.We chatted the whole day and he was asking me about my family and kids etc etc. He seemed happy. Suddenly in the evening I got an email full of abuses for me. He said that he was just testing me and I have failed his test. Since I am on student Visa and all my feelings for him is to trap him for a permanent citizenship. He told me that for last two days, he had been doing the homework about me.I was numb at that point. Few minutes before, I left him perfectly OK and suddenly that happened...He told me that they will talk in class as students and I told him that I do not want to talk with him at all. Then he hacked my e mail address and he blocked the email accounts. He was reacting in a way as if i have ruined his life. I told him that we have not even met yet, then why such comments. Two days later, I got an ae mail of apology from him for using those harsh words and he said that he wanted me to be happy in my family and he in his family. And he always thought very high of me. He said his belief is this institution of marrige.During those two days, he forwarded some e mails to my husband which showed that I wanted to sleep with him and he was the one who was not interetsed. You can imagine the situation at home.Although the seperation between me and my husband was final, this episode twisted the whole situation. My husband got enough good reasons to use these e mails against me. I told my husband that he proposed me, i was not after him and moreover I took decision during the time when our seperation was final.I asked that guy why did not he send him the proposal notes and he just back stabbed me. Then two days later he gave the email address and password for the account. Now my husband has got enough proof with him to blame me. Iam not scared about the money part but only thing is the damage caused to my reputation because when I will get seperate, my husband will rotate those emails to all the family members to disclose me. And If i continue to stay with my husband I will be his slave for entire life and will have th worst life forever.( may be he asks me that he will not disclose those e mails to the family members).Please help .......Iam in a real distress.(The guy is very good looking and young but married to a women who is 20 years older than him. I am also considered very smart, attractive and intelligent.My husband paid my school fees but is very abusive and tortures me verbally and sexually.)
View related questions:
money, moved out, university Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (26 September 2010):
 If Im not mistaken, you had posted this before here, as "foreign students stereotypes" or something like that. I remember because I had found your views bizarre and its all repeated here!!What is wrong with you? You have a problem at home, doesnt mean you go around looking for divine peace with other men!! If your husband is abusive, deal with him the right way. Tell your family, take him to court, leave him...but dont go around making a fool of yourself. What world do you live in?? You cant try to wriggle out of your marriage like this...work it out with dignity. You cant approach strangers like this and expect to gallop away into the sunset... you're not living a fairy tale!! you're apparently "considered very smart, attractive and intelligent"....well, you've clearly proven that 2 out of those three are wrong. Dont know about the attractive, but you're neither smart or intelligent! You're just insane!! Work your way out of this mess. Get a hold on yourself
A
male
reader, paulomiller  +, writes (25 September 2010):
You are crazy..really crazy ..wake up woman! what the world you live on??? first you have to get yourself up and stop to look for guys to abuse you..because you are doing this...there isn't peace on the guys's eyes ..if you want peace ..look at this in God's eyes... in men'eyes you will find just one thing sex..but if you want love ..look at this in the bheart..stop to go after looks ..if you still run on this road all your life will be a mess...now I'm trying to be a nice guy ...girls like you I would do everything that I wanted to but they let me do it ..so get yoursel up ..stop on be a little thing in me's hands
...............................
|
