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writes:This may not sound like something to complain about but it seems as though my boyfriend is too logical or practical or something. Its taking away the romance from our relationship. He doesn't think the romance part is very important and ive told him how i think it is important. He only focuses on bettering ourselves for the future which is a great thing....but its the ONLY thing he focuses on. His little lectures and life lessons he tries to give me are making him seem more like an older brother (or worse a father!!!) than my boyfriend. How can I get him to realize that there wont be a future if there is no spark.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell i used to think we were well suited but its not so much the case anymore. Its not even really that hes controlling. So many girls i know arent even "allowed" to go to the bar without their boyfriends but he has trust in me and im free to do as i please which is good. Sometimes i cant figure ot whether im staying with him cause its all i know and am used to or if its because i really think we could have a potential future together. Ive never been this confused about my relationship with him before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe is 21 and we have been going out for 4 years. Its almost as if he has matured 15 years beyond his age this past year. It has always been him saying "were so young, we should just live life to the fullest blah blah blah" and me being the one who just wanted to act like a "married" couple i guess. Now that he is acting all like this it has freaked me out. Hes never been super romantic but he still did some stuff. Now its just like hes gearing me up to be a perfect house wife er something for him. I just want to have a fun romanitc relationship with him! Like i dont get why all of a sudden he just matured beyond his age like that??
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (24 June 2010):
 Oh boy... well I'll be honest with you, I don't think he's going to change because it sounds like its a major part of his personality. Can I ask how old he is and how long you've been going out?
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