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writes:I am in love but the thing is I have suspicions on my girl. I think she goes and sees her ex, you see she did that to one of my close friends but says it was payback for something. I find it hard to trust her at times but at other times my trust for her is unbreakable, I just want to die. I really don't want to end the relationship but if I was to do it would it help me? How would I end it and move on? It bothers me greatly when I think of her being with her ex again. I need to know some advice. If I end it I feel like hapiness would be gone. End it or not? If I decide to how would I move on? I have tried merely 11 times to but I can't allow it to happen, it's my first real relationship, 7 months now. I'm confused.Please please tell me something to ease the pain. I really don't want to end it without being sure. Please help. =[ Desperado
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reader, dasonras +, writes (3 January 2009):
Does she have a track record that suggests that she can't be trusted? If not, then you are worrying about nothing. Do not create scenerios and delusions in your head as I assure you it will eat away at you fast.
I can, however, relate to the feelings to have. If she truly loves you she will remain loyal and respect you. If not, you need to deal with this reality and break it off.
She should not be keeping secrets from you and you should not be keeping secrets from her. I'm not going to tell you to be completely off guard (because ex-boyfriends do have a way of resurfacing), but you need to discuss this with your girl honestly and in a way that you do not come off as controlling.
Instead of questioning her like she has done something wrong, start by letting her know that something is bothering you emotionally and that you want to work through it.
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reader, chrissy121005 +, writes (2 January 2009):
I think you should sit down with her and talk about this and tell her this isn't a game, and she needs to be honest with you. If you feel that she is lying to you at the moment then you should end it!!!
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