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writes:So when I was younger like 6, I had a sexual experience with a boy who was almost 14. Then I had another with a couple ppl who were like family to me. I am a pretty strong person so I delt with it silently for many years. A good friend of mine who experienced something similar warned me that there will be side effects. I refused to believe her, but now I have issues trusting men. I want a boyfriend, but what happened so long ago is holding me back. I think it also drives some of the anger I feel toward guys and this vulnerable, helpless, uncomfortable feeling. If anyone understands, your word will be greatly appreciated.Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Kama  +, writes (17 June 2010):
 Therapist, seconded. Best of luck
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (17 June 2010):
 Im so sorry for what happen in the past. I could say that you are really a very strong person inside and out. But yes, there will be a possible effects. Yes person12345 has great idea, therapist will be a great help. Please dont take it so long. You are still young and still have a great life ahead. But for now you need to work on your emotion. For now its not much what you will feel but later if will hit you. So i would say work on it now.Please dont let the past ruin your future. Stay strong as you are and always think you are not the only one who had this experience. If others can work on this and move on, you can also do it. Gud luck...
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 June 2010):
 I think the best thing for you would be to see a therapist. The people here can give great advice, but this is an issue that will take a lot of time to work through and it may be painful for you to re-experience. I wish you luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): When I read your post, I got goosebumps...you basically described most of my own experiences. And yes, there are effects. I consider myself strong, I thought I couldn't be affected by my past. But, I realized soon enough that the results of abuse don't have a lot to do with strength. I hated men for a long time, didn't trust them and I subconciously sought to hurt them as much as I thought they would hurt me. I had low self esteem...Finally, I saw a counselor as a last resort and I quit that. But, i tried again and found one who helped me more and cared. I'm not going to say I'm "cured" but I'm better now though I can never forget...my boyfriend now understands and is patient with me, it was hard to trust him at first, but time helped. Keep up your strength and do what you need to to get your life in control and get what you want. Don't let the past win-you are stronger than that. I wish you all the best, -Rachel
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