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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I am a virgin in my early twenties.I was suffering from anxiety for an year or so. This was due to working continually for night shifts in my job.I could not get out of it.My health had gone down.I remained away from friends and work. I am close to my mom and discussed with her and doctors. The outcome from the discussion was that If may be I go for marriage or some continual relation with a girl could lift the depression. But the condition I was in I had lost intrest in girls too. My mother knew that and she was depressed also. She cant see me depressed any more. One day when I was feeling anxious and depressed, to relieve it she gave me a hug and loosened her clothes.I said that my depression will never go and. Also I felt my private part touching her lower area. That particular thought made me feel odd at that time. Then I went for an outing to a hill station but that thought of my pvt part touching her body is making me feel odd, anxious all the time.I am getting some sort of panic also. I have got a new job now but the second thought make me anxious now. I could not work inspite of getting my desired job.Now i am getting marriage proposals but I am wondering that first I get rid of this thought and then i will go for marriage because i dont wanna go for marriage in anxious depressed mood. My friends ask me about the prob and I dont know what to say. What should I do. Is getting rid of it a big deal.. Please help..
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reader, leanne.od  +, writes (19 December 2007):
 first of all, your mum was wrong to have done what she did, it is not at all helpful with anxiety and depression to confuse you and make you feel uncomfortabel, she is your mum, and cannot fulfil you sexually, and shouldn't have tried to get close to you in that way.
i have suffered with aniety and depression and yes, your interest in the opposite sex does disappear for a while, but once the depression has settled then the interest will ocme back. you need to sort yourself out before and marriages or anything take place. you need to get your life under control because getting married or havign a relationship is not a cure. it will primarily add to the problem. marriages are stressful at the best of time, but you will be relied upon even more and so much will be expected of you.
just take time out to sort yourself out first, dont worry and take things slowly at your pace and stop worrying.
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