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writes:I cut my ex out of my life after a series of bad events (including him cheating). However I still really love him and want to be with him.I actually want to speak to him again because I miss our great friendship/companionship a lot, but I know he won't appreciate me until he realizes what we had was great and what he has lost. He sent one last email to explain how important I was and that he missed me but also agreed to respect my wishes of giving me my space and time so was not going to contact me.How long should I wait before contacting him again and how should I start it?
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reader, dan026 +, writes (29 June 2009):
 Don't contact him. He cheated on you on top of other things. That shows how selfish he his and that he does not respect you as he should. You are still in love with him and trying to be "friends" will only cause you more pain. Just remember the good times, but when you want him back or start missing him remember what he had done to you. You should move on a find someone who can give you what you need.
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reader, MonicaC +, writes (29 June 2009):
 You've gotten some good advice from the other posters here, but I will give mine as well. I think you should definitely take a solid amount of time off from him before you instigate contact again. I think you would be the best judge of how long that is, but I tend to agree that at least three months is essential. This will give you the time to rebuild your own self-esteem, think through what happened, and make a better decision about whether you want to continue the relationship.I have been in a similar situation as yours. In fact, I am only recently recovered from ending a relationship after I discovered he was cheating on me. Over the past several weeks since I broke up with him, I have spoken to him on one or two occasions. And, yes, I do still love him. BUT, I said we needed time to heal before we even talk about the future or the possibility of getting back together. Right now, I'm leaning towards not going back to him because I just don't trust him anymore.Take some time for you. Remember, after all, you are worth it!Best of luck. xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): Hi....... i think you should think about the reasons you left this man. Those reasons are still there and wont go away. If you are intent on reuniting.... a few months at the least is essential. During this time assert your independance and get your life back on track. At least this way if things go wrong again you have something to fall back on.... it will also show him you cannot be messed around and come running back weeks later. Stay strong and if he is the one for you, he will wait a while..Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): You said it, he cheated, why would you want to come back to that guy, I know you probably still love him, but sometimes it's best just to let go. You might meet someone who actually can give you that and more, including being faithful, who's to say there isn't someone better for you out there?
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