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writes:i am getting married in two weeks and i am sick to the stomach. the thing is planned, mostly paid for and i just cannot go through with it. I hate his kids, his family and i am going off him by the day. but how do i go about telling him without wrecking his life! He adores me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2007): Honesty is important here. Tell him about your problems and that you can't go through with the wedding. Then leave him. The money is not as important as you not having to marry a man in which you know the relationship isn't going to work out. Find someone in which you want to be with.
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reader, Cleo +, writes (29 March 2007):
Unfortunately, however you tell him is going to be upsetting for him - that's life.
You do however have to tell him - I am sure you already know all this and what you are after is some sort of reassurance that it will be OK.
The best I can do is say that in the long run it will be better to end it now than to wait however long into your marriage feeling more and more miserable every day.
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reader, Reebe +, writes (29 March 2007):
 Hello there,
This sounds a little more than pre wedding jitters.
If you are sure that you do not want to marry this man, and if it's because you don't like his kids or his family, do you love him enough to rise above that and be with him anyway? If not then you need to tell him as early as possible, waiting until the day or even marrying him whilst feeling like this will make things much much worse.
Be honest with him as to why you don't want to marry him, try to be sensitive as this is probably going to come as a complete shock to him as he is thinking that everything is wonderful between you 2.
If you are sure he's not the one for you then you should both be free to find someone who is, and he may not understand now why your not right for each other, but hopefully one day he will. You need to speak to him as soon as possible to save anymore heartache.
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