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writes:I know this is not a relationship question, but i dont know where else to ask and i have posted stuff on here before and i like the amount of help i have received so i would like to try to get some help.This is about my life and drinking. I am currently in college and i have been drinking alcohol, but i need some advice in setting limits. I only drink once a week (usually saturdays), but i drink large quantities (well 10-15 beers is alot in my opinion, i usually catch a buzz around 6). I would like to know how much drinking is too much. The reason i ask this is because everytime i drink i feel terrible the next day. Not just because of a hangover, but more of the shame because my parents and my girlfriend hate me drinking. I have this feeling of shame because i know it hurts them to know that i drink, and they worry that i might get myself in a bad situation when i am drunk (going to jail, getting in a car accident, etc..) I know i have a hard time setting limits on myself and i really would like some advice on how much drinking is considered acceptable and how i should handle this situation. I would like to learn from people with previous experience about this as far as how often is drinking fine. Is getting drunk once a week too much? If you guys are a parents how often would you be fine seeing your son or daughter drink?I dont have a problem with drinking as far as being addicted is considered, i just dont know how much drinking is considered a healthy limit and accepted. thanks in advanced
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reader, YouWish +, writes (16 October 2012):
 Your solution can be found in your own words here:
You said this:
"I know i have a hard time setting limits on myself "
And this:
"I have this feeling of shame because i know it hurts them to know that i drink, and they worry that i might get myself in a bad situation when i am drunk "
And after that, then you said this:
"I dont have a problem with drinking as far as being addicted is considered"
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These statements alone should cause you to make the decision to abstain completely from drinking.
If you can't set your own limits, then you are addicted.
If your drinking is such that has everyone who loves you scared and worried for your life, then you are addicted.
If you are unable to have one drinking session that doesn't end up with you suffering from a hangover, then you are addicted.
If it takes 6 drinks even to give you the minimum of buzzes, then you are addicted.
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You must abstain, and if you can't, you need to seek help from those who will help you regain control of your life. The amount you drink is causing damage to your liver and the rest of your system which will become irreparable if ignored.
Many people are able to drink casually and responsibly and there's no problem. They can have one glass of wine or a couple of beers during the sports game and leave it at that. You have a weakness for it. It's not about right or wrong, you're just susceptible to it.
I know some people are suggesting that you cut back on drinking, but I think that you should stop, because you are addicted and it poses a danger to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2012): Drinking 6 pints of beer is excessive...even for once a week. I'd limit that amount to once a month. My drink of choice is red wine, and although it has beneficial properties, drinking just a small glass every day is too much. I only now drink at weekends. When i was less health concious I could easily split a bottle with my partner every day with a meal. It ended up being really expensive and it gave me really bad acid reflux and caused weight gain. Alcohol is pure energy, it can make you put on fat like crazy.You really dont want to get into a habit of drinking alcohol every day.
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reader, mooh  +, writes (15 October 2012):
there's nothing wrong with drinking once a week however in such quantities this can have some serious consequences on your health. Usually binging is part of the college phase, so after going through so many excesses you will probably grow out of it after awhile.
if you want to try to limit your alcohol consumption, why not hang out on some saturdays with other social crowds that drink less. Or maybe instead hang out with your usual social crowd on the first part of the evening and then go on a date with your girlfriend so that you know you have no excuse on being drunk when you see her. If you go to bars just bring enough money for 1-3 drinks so that you know you need to make those beers last for the night without getting so wasted.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 October 2012):
 IF you are asking then it's too much.
even if you just drink one day a week, drinking to excess (and you are drinking more than double what you need to "catch a buzz") and drinking beyond control are signs of addiction.
I have no problem having a drink with my child when we go out to eat (but he's 26 now)
I have no problem with ONE or two drinks to be social or even a single beer or glass of wine with dinner...
drinking to excess like you are doing even one day a week is typical college behavior however, I'd just watch that it doesn't turn into something more
Is getting DRUNK once a week too much? YES.. why would you want to drink to excess like that?
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reader, Bria101 +, writes (15 October 2012):
 If you feel so awful after drinking why do it at all!I'm 22 and a senior in college and after a few months of parties and drinking during my freshman year, i decided to call it quits with booze.I don't drink alcohol at all bc i've seen what asses people make of themselves after drinking! and like hell do i want to put myself under situations like that! in fear of sounding like an afterschool special, i don't see alcohol as a requisite to having fun and once you're sober and can actually observe ppl around you, you see that at the end of the day ppl regret the crap they've done under the influence! why would i want that myself?!some ppl think i'm downright stupid not to want to drink, others think i might be a recovering alcoholic and i've had ppl pushing drinks on me...mostly guys!if you want to drink go ahead but self-awareness is a must if you want to avoid getting hangovers or blackouts...you have to know your own limits and stop when you feel you're crossing the line between tipsy and wasted!hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2012): 10-15 beers is considered to be binge drinking. So, it's not ok to get loaded like this.It's not a matter of how many times a week you can get drink, it's a matter of you getting drunk, period.Drinking is ok even every day, if it is one or 2 drinks. If you are out, and a big guy, then I would think 4-5 beers would be ok, but 15?!!Mu husband never drank in his life before, but around 5-6 years ago he started drinking every day. Sometimes it's 1-2 drinks, but sometimes he goes to 4. It concerns me very much, as I don't think he should go to 4 drinks . I m a drinker myself, but I hardly go over 3 glasses of wine when I m out, and I don't drink every day at all, may 3 times a week, but my 2 are just 1-2 glasses of wine. You feel bad the next day not only because you feel shame. But because alcohol is a downer, it makes you depressed, this is how it effects your brain.
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