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*ailman430
writes:Hey guys and gals I am new here and just have a question about my sex life with my girlfriend I was wondering I can get your thoughts on. I have been with my girlfriend for 6 years now. Shes the mother of my two kids 4 and 7 months. Been through our fair share of ups and downs but who hasn't? Life's hard especially relationships. But all is well now. Anyways, I always had a fetish/fantasy for a threesome. Definenetly with another chick for sure and to be honest with you I wouldn't mind another dude. Now recently I have been testing her. As we are having sex, I put my finger in her mouth. She really gets into sucking it again as im having sex with her. So I talk dirty to her saying 'yeah babe were having a threesome suck it yea and she does'.. (sorry if im being too graphic here). So then before I finished if you know what I mean I asked her lets have a threesome I don't care if its another guy and she sorta laughed and said "babe" and I just finished. But each time we have sex now its the finger sucking and I think she really likes it. So whats my next step here? Does she like that? Does that mean shes into threesomes? Does that mean she wants something else there as im having sex with her? And how can I bring up the subject again? And honestly do I really want that? Shes the mother of my kids? I haven't talked to her about it when go through out the day. But its only at night. And its only when we have sex that this finger sucking threesome thing comes out.AHH soo confused!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2013): Mailman, keep it as an exciting fantasy and leave it at that. I wouldn't even suggest it again, It's very disrespectful.
Oh and your finger is not her erogenous zone. Maybe she will enjoy the fantasy (just fantasy) more if you pretend to be a stranger sucking/ licking HER (not her finger). Just a little thought....
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (3 November 2013):
 I'm with SVC - she does it because it gets YOU hot. It's as close as you will get to a 3-some. Roleplaying your fantasy with a "finger".
No, it surely doesn't mean she wants another person in her bed or the relationship.
How do you bring it up? You need to stop. IF she was DEAD-SET of trying it, don't you think she would have suggested it already? Think man?!
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (3 November 2013):
Dirty talk and actually doing it are two different things.
You thinking that her sucking on your finger is another guys penis is in your mind, not hers.
A fantasy is best at being a fantasy!
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reader, M Proops  +, writes (3 November 2013):
You obviously don't love your girlfriend to be even suggesting this.Doesn't bode well for your future together.Poor woman I just despair.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (2 November 2013):
 I remember you from few months ago. This time only different in that you didn't say you've had this conversation and she said she had no interest. It's hard to say if she said "babe" to mean "hey, it's just a fantasy," or "here you go again, enough of this already." She might only like the experience of having the orifices stuffed (the physical sensations are heightened and doubled), but threesomes involve real people with real feelings. In fantasy it's like you are living in a la la land with your own harem. The reality is that you might not look at her the same way, as she is doing something to whorish for a mother to your kids. I can say this thing is all one sided. She is happy to spice things up but for an actual threesome it's too much to handle.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (2 November 2013):
 She's doing it cause you offer it and it makes you hot to think that she thinks it's another guy...
doesn't mean she wants a threesome.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2013): Well just think calmly...if you really do love her would you like some other guy to have sex with her or see her in the sexy way she is with you...or if she loves you would she imagine you with another girl enjoying a hot sex...? Your gf maybe playing with you when you talk about threesome and girls are into the sucking part so they especially enjoy such stuff...........
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