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*lgardner1
writes:There is this man I have had feelings for the past six months. I know I am only infatuated with him, but I can't explain my feelings for him. They are strong and won't go away. I have a feeling he likes me, but I'm not exactly sure. If I post a picture of myself on social media, he immediately likes it. When we talk in person, he always makes it clear to me he is single and not dating anybody. He never talks about other women in front of me. Just a few days ago, he randomly asked me to go out to lunch with him and his friends. His friends were another couple and I met them at the resturant. At the end of lunch he ended up paying for me. The other couple had to leave early which left him and I there alone. We talked for awhile and then he walked me to my car and gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek goodbye. When we talk he is able to talk to me about personal stuff. I guess I just needed to know if this sounds like me likes me? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 April 2017):
 Yip he likes you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2017): I agree with both Honeypie and WiseOwlE. I think he definitely likes you and it seems like he's moving slow. From my own personal experience, the slower I moved with women meant the more I respected them and didn't want to scare them off. He probably has a lot of respect for you but wants more. Don't destroy that respect by having sex with him anytime soon. Go on and enjoy things with him - lunches, maybe dinner, those sorts of things. Even kiss him if you feel it. Just don't have sex with him until you're a bit more into things or he'll lose the respect he has for you.And I agree, don't go overboard with emotions or demanding emotions from him. Let it build. That's not playing games, it's not playing hard to get, it's just playing it safe. If you have a real connection it will only get stronger if you move things along slowly. If you don't, and he is just wanting a hookup, it's better not to give him what he wants and let him move on before you open your heart up to being hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2017): He likes you, but take you time. Calm your eagerness and keep things relaxed; so you won't get ahead of yourself, allowing desperation for a boyfriend to get you over-excited. Don't fall in-love, let your feelings out a little at a time. Figure him out and evaluate his personality to determine if you really like him; or just wanting a boyfriend so bad any guy will do.
I know women crave the words to be said, but sometimes you have to let actions speak first. He has asked you out, he has introduced you to friends, and he has shown you mild affection.
Yes he likes you. He'll put it in words when he's ready. The mistake so many females make is getting impatient and demanding to be told "I love you," and ready to label it an official relationship. Enjoy everything that comes until you get there. I expect some advice will be to ask him where it's going. Some guys will see that as rushing them; I would. You also need a guy's perspective, not just hearing it from other females.
This is what is called a courtship-ritual. If more young people went through it, they'd have better relationships.
He would not go so far if he didn't like you. How much he likes you will be determined over time. Your feelings should be kept in-check until you know where things are headed, and you're certain that you actually know the person you think you like so much.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (6 April 2017):
 It does sound like he likes you. However, hold off on sex till you have HAD a talk about being in a relationship WITH each other that is exclusive.
Why do I say that? Because he KNOWS you are infatuated with him. If he IS looking for a relationship like you then good. If he is JUST looking for something "friendly with sex" that might NOT be what you want.
A guy can LIKE you and NOT want to date you. Up to you to decide what YOU want. So keep sex out of the mix till then.
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