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41-50,
*amboogirl
writes:I had a relationship for about 10 months with the perfect man, he's really smart (a scientist) and so nice to me, he gave me flowers and all tipe of presents for no reason, he cooked for me every time we were together, treated me like a princess. But he often didn't call as much as i would like and i resented that, felt the he didn't care about my feelings. Also he had a lot of troubles, health issues and with his family (often he was depressed and i made him feel better, suport him, eventually afected his performance in bed and he felt guilty, etc). I knew he wanted to go to Europe for a phd, and i was just living for the day, enjoying his company, until i fell in love, sooo much in love with him. Knowing he was going to leave, and he did. But before that, even before he knew he was going to leave, he dumped me, the reasons he gave were that he didn't care about me as much as i did about him, and i deserved better. I asked him if he loved me and he said he had never loved me. Broke my heart badly.two weeks later he was in Europe, he didn't even said goodbye to me. But now he sent me an email, he says he's sad and miss me as his girlfriend and he's trying not to think about me or the decisions he's made. I miss him so bad, also is so hard to accept he didn't loved me.
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reader, bamboogirl +, writes (26 September 2008):
bamboogirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for answering... yes he's a very lonely man, he does not have a family he can relly on, and now he is even more lonely away from his friends. And he does have a low self steam, when we were together he told me once he cared for me more than he cared for himself, then when he dumped me he took it back, "i said that because i was so frustrated with my life at the moment". He seemed to care for me so much when we were together and now he's just ignoring me, does not write at all. Seem as if is very easy for him to forget about my existance.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (26 September 2008):
 I am venturing a guess that this man is lonely. When a man is lonely he recalls the wonderful woman he dusted off. I think he did care about you and I do think he does miss you. It also sounds like he has had some issues with his self esteem. A man who says he is not good enough for you and that you should find someone better is a coward and a fool. He may have really care but there was no way he was ever going to admit that or let himself be carried away by the love bug. This is a man who is emotionally unavailable to you and you will be better off with someone who isn't afraid and who is willing and able to give you what you need.
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